My daughter doesn't like one of her nursery teachers

@OllieW (15)
December 10, 2007 1:28pm CST
And she will not listen to her, runs away from dinner table and being generally 'naughty'. The thing is, she is as good as gold with other teachers. I do talk to my daughter and explain her that this behaviour is not acceptable etc., but how to enforce this? Must admit, the teacher somewhat not very attractive woman (my darling husband called her 'poor excuse for a woman', in one-to-one conversation with me), and she doesn't appear assertive.
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• United States
10 Dec 07
Is there a reason why your daughter doesnt like her teacher? Try to figure out if theres some reason why she doesnt listen to this teacher. I know ive seen cases where teachers sometimes put students down. And in that case you cant expect a child to want to listen to their teacher. Maybe if you even know some of the other parents they might know something you dont. Good luck and i hope it all works out for the best.
@OllieW (15)
10 Dec 07
Thanks nmhschic, I'll try to talk to other parents and maybe to my daughters key worker. It's not the first time my daughter has been naughty with this one teacher, she does try to push boundaries with others as well (as they do at this age), but problems arise repeatedly only when this teacher on duty.
@Phlamingho (7824)
• Denmark
10 Dec 07
Have you asked you daughter why she dosen't like her? If there's a rason maybe you can complain about the teacher, but if she does her job then I guess there's not that much you can do.
@OllieW (15)
10 Dec 07
I did, she just says 'I don't like her because she tells me what to do' !! Cannot quite reason with 4 y.o. child.... Mind, other teachers tell her what to do as well, and she does.
• Canada
11 Dec 07
You must ask your daughter there must be some reason.
@suehan1 (4344)
• Australia
11 Dec 07
i would keep an eye out about this situation,i know 4 year olds can be trying at times,but they do know who they do and don't like.i would monitor the teacher and check with other parents if they have any problems with her.i am saying this as i ignored my daughter when she did not want to go to school and her behaviour was so bad at preschool 'i thought it was just a stage she was going through,but it turned out to be something really bad,happening there with a certain person on the staff that was frightening her.so just keep a mindful eye out because if she is good for the others why is she bad for this one in particular
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
Hi I am a Sunday School Teacher in our Church I'd already encounter student like your daughter especially their attitudes. It is good to know that you and your daughter have a time to talk each other especially your guiding her in a right track. And I know that her teacher is aware regarding her attitude. I suggest that talk to the teacher to help your daughter to be close to her like home visitation once a week or giving much more attention and PRAYER. As a teacher who loves my students we will do our best effort in able to get closer to my students and teach them not only lesson but also good morals.And We don't want to have a bad image to them instead to be a good model. I hope this can be help.I am glad your helping your daughter to develop her attitudes when she is young...
• United States
11 Dec 07
Perhaps you should ask your daughter what it is that makes her disobedient. Ask her why she doesn't listen to that teacher. Ask her if she dislikes her, and why. Maybe there is a good reason for it. It seems strange that your daughter would be excellent with all other teachers, but out of control with her. I highly doubt its correlated to her appearance. Goodluck!
• United States
11 Dec 07
I too think it's sad what your husband said about the teacher, but anyway, on with the real topic. If your daughter does not like her because she tells her what to do, then maybe you should start enforcing some rules at home, especially the ones that the teacher tries to enforce at school that she doesn't listen too. Whenever you hear about her misbehaving for this teacher, instead of just talking, you should implement some sort of punishment at home too. She has to learn that she has to listen, regardless of what adult is telling her what to do, and what that adult is telling her to do. It may take some work, but she'll figure it out eventually.
• United States
11 Dec 07
Maybe it is the way this teacher tells your daughter what to do. Children are sensitive at this age and if she is telling her in a rude tone that your daughter is not used to that could be why she does not like her. You say that the other teachers also tell her what to do and she listens, well maybe they tell her nicely and gently so your daughter doesn't just automatically think that she does not like them like she does with the other teacher.