what should you do if your husband you trusted has a new lover?

Hello dear downaalice. If it should happen to a wife, I think that it is time for both to have a good chat over it to see what is the main cause to it. It is always a good idea not to break the family relationship since there is already a kid from the marriage. A heart-to-heart talk is completely necessary for it. Thanks for your discussion.

Everyone reacts somewhat differently. Personally, there is no way I could forgive something like that. The thought of him just abandoning us, not to mention because he wanted to get his rocks off with someone else. Fair enough, at some time in their life, a partner may fall out of love and find someone new, but before it goes any further than a like, you get divorced and be truthful to your family. You can't have your cake and eat it. If this happened to me, I'd get a divorce and I'd move on. It would be painful, but I just wouldn't put up with such disgusting treatment. If he was a good father and could continue to be, of course he'd get joint custody, but I would want nothing further to do with him. Honesty is key, even if you have to be the one to come forward and say you're unhappy in the relationship and no longer want to be a part of it, it's sop much better than sneaking around, lying and cheating. No woman or man should ever have to put up with that sort of treatment from a partner. =) Mal.

I guess being me I would probably lock myself away and do a lot of crying, I think there is nothing worse than finding out that someone you trusted cheated on you in any way, it is like making a fool of you, taking your relationship for granted and destroying something beautiful.

as a guy here.. i'm giving my opinion in a woman's point of view.. actually, wat everybody said is right, there's nothing u can do but divorce him.. BUt make sure u have the kid and make sure that he doesn't get the kid.. because u are the one who give birth to the kid as well as carry it in ur womb for 9 months.. u have every right to have custody of the kid.. Be strong, show that u can live without him, wish him all the best, make him regret for giving u up, make him beg down on his kneels but u still dun wanna have him back.. make him suffer.. Even after he say that he has learnt his lesson, dun be soft hearted.. But instead, explain everything to your kid.. Let the kid decide, even though, it's hard or unfair to the kid, but a marriage often involves the kid's feeling..

well i think that there is nothing you can actually do rather than crying or just thinking as to why he did this to you? i take a lot of time to believe on others and since i trusted my partner a lot,it would not easy for me to digest it.i will be shattered from within myslef.i might forgive him if its the first chance as everyone makes mistakes however i will not be able to trust him any more.for me i think i would not dare to give him a second chance but yes for my child i will have to consider.because i have to think about my child first.

divorce him,get on your feet,take care of your son and another man will come along in some time.

There is really nothing that you can do. You either file for divorce or wait and see if he comes back to you. Then, you decide whether or not you will forgive him and take him back.