Will you give another chance?

No, I wouldn't give him another chance if I was in the wife's position. What her husband did was cheating and cheating is always wrong. Cheating shows that he doesn't love or respect his wife or their relationship and marriage, regardless of whether or not he was actually planning on ending the affair. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

even if u give the husband a chance, but he isn't willing, it's not gonna work out anymore. if i were her, have a heart to heart talk with her husband and go from there. if he's really not into the marriage anymore, then, she should move on minus him and accept that he's never gonna be hers no more.

Very frankly speaking No. The person who has cheated his wife can do this again and again. And when he had his wife, why he did so? Cheaters should not be given a chance.

In this case, I don't really know what I would do. I found emails to another female from my ex-husband while I was pregnant with our daughter. He claims that they were just friends, yet he was secretly setting up a plan to meet her. He was using the excuse that he was going to visit his mom (they lived in the same state). The difference is, he met this girl on a 3 week trip with the military. I tried to trust him, and to this day he swears nothing happened. I believe him, but I lost that trust in him and couldn't deal with it anymore. I also believe that nothing happened because I found out before it could. He told me when I found out that he would never talk to her again, he lied. I also believe that nothing happened because he wanted more than she did. He is friends with this girl still. I have even been around her now, she comes to visit and hang out with him and his new wife. I have no problem with her now, I don't care anymore. I left him and moved on. His new wife knows the history because we are friends. With the situation that you described, one thing throws up the big red flag. The fact that he has not ended it. He can end it anytime. There is never going to be an easy time to do it. He should care about the feelings of his wife more than those of the married woman sitting at the computer screen. If he truly wants his marriage and she is willing to give him another chance. He needs to end it NOW. He needs to never talk to her again in any format. He also needs to accept the fact that anything he does is now going to be suspicious for a very long time. If he wants to earn the trust back, he needs to just deal with it. He is the one in the wrong and deserves no privacy for quite some time.

Instead of being concerned about a cyber affair she should be concerned that her husband is thinking about straying! He obviously isn't happy in some aspect of that marriage or maybe just needs a change! They both should re-evaluate that marriage!

he doesn't have chance... he had already done that would still trust him? your not a saint i think that you should give another chance, if you give him another chance there a vast chance that he'd still do that am very sure of it...

no, never. If i were the wife, in this case i would not have given chance.It is bad that the man cheated big time. when he had wife and he had cheated her, he need to be left alone with his wrong doings.

I think I would have to say no. At first I thought, well, maybe if he just never got on the computer again. but then I would just worry that he would find someone real to have an affair with. Once the trust is broken, that is it for a relationship.

i don't know. did they actually meet in person? Even if it was only cyber, I'd have to question just how much I meant to this man and most especially after she threatened divorce and he still stalled, waiting for the "right" time. It seems obvious that this other woman's feelings mean more to him than his wife's. He doesn't sound remorseful at all. I'd probably move on. I would not want to be with a man that did not love and cherish me as I did him. What would be the point other than convenience?

I guess, if you could still carry it -- the thought that he has an affair, and if your solely trust him still since he is asking for another chance -- just give him the chance. BUT once you feel that he is already abusing your trust then decide. :)

My first reaction is that I would absolutely not give my husband another chance. However, since I have been seperated once from my husband I can now say that I would have to wait until I was in the situation before making a judgement call on that. Each couple is different, and each set of circumstances is different. I don't think I could live with a spouse that cheated on me at this point, but I may change that if I was ever forced to face it.

if the wife is me, my answer is yes!ill give him another chance because i love him,but this chance is only one.I control my temper for him and its not mean that he can do his sins again.ill give him only a last chance to prove to me that he will make the best decision for him self.

A cyber relationship is NOT a realtionship. Everyone who is married would feel uncomfortable about it, but I won't divorce smobody for having a VIRTUAL relationship.

"planning to end the affair and that he is just waiting for the right time to end it." The right time never comes in most cases. Either the kids get in the way, jobs get in the way or distance to travel gets in the way. It's a BS reason to not end an affair. If he truly wanted to, he would have done it already. A better man wouldn't have started it in the first place. I've been down this road with my S/O and swore up and down I'll never go back. Only his other woman was a real live woman he met in line at Office Depot. But I hope and pray to never be put in that spot again.

I think it depends on the individuals and the relationship before the affair. sometimes people makes mistakes, and considering it was an internet relationship and not some chick from work the bar etc. i think i could of started as harmless faceless flirting that got out of control. If it was my partner i would be very angry but i dont think i would approach the affair the same way i would approach it if it was physically cheating.

for me yes, i give him another change, if he really tell the truth that he want to live this lady.give him chance will be good also he will realize that his family is there for him not to look to another person.

I wouldn't give him another chance i mean he's an adult adults know what's wrong and what's right.Especially in this case he admits everything.Why wouldn't he do it again.And the woman she's married too? I mean that's sick.I would divorce him.I mean when getting married you have made vowels to eachother.He obviously broke them

I still think of it as cheating. Meeting up is just the next step. I don't think I would give him another chance. If he did it once what's to say that he wouldn't do it again. And next time go further than what he already has in the past. Another thing is why is he doing what he is doing. The wife needs to look into their relationship. Is there a problem in their relationship, is something missing from it or is he cyber cheating for reasons of his own. Yes a very hard call to make but depending on the situation I would be not giving him another chance.

I think I wouldn't give him another chance. Love, respect, confidence are needed in a relationship, if the respect and confidence were broke, as much I would love him, I wouldn't trust anymore, I would live with fears, always thinking "he is in job/house, with his pc, what he is doing now?", I would be always, but always, with fear. For example, a person can say "ok, you are sorry, I accept you sorries" - that doesn't mean that it will be forgotten. The husband broke the relationship by doing that, he showed he had no respect at all for her wife. That's my opinion, now only the wife have the "cheese and knife in her hands" to decide it.

If you are married and your man cheats one time or has a little affair, I don't think there's nothing wrong with that. I think that your man is your man, he's the one that your with, you're the one that he loves, you're the one that he comes home tonight. It's about where he wants to be. You let him do what he does, If he continually messes up over and over again, I would say that you shouldn't be with him. If he was really planning to break it off with you then you shouldn't be with him. But if he was talking to some lady online, It could've been worse. I think that he looks kind of desperate, at least he didn't do anything that messed up where he slept with her or w/e you don't want to think about that. He messed up, the only thing is... Will he do it again? Or will he stay faithful? Are you the person that he wants to be with? You'll know because you wont just be able to see it, but you'll feel it. He's your husband, and marriage is a sacred thing. Marriage isn't something that you just play around with.