What are good reasons for divorce?
@aidenofthetower (1814)
United States
December 11, 2007 10:02am CST
Divorce tears families apart, crushes dreams, and causes ache in the heart of most who go through it. Even so it seems that there is a world wide (though not touching all countries) increase in the amount of divorce that takes place. It is like an epidemic, touching so many groups of people.
Even so, there are some situations and some cases where a divorce seems to be the best option. A couple of examples. The woman who's husband beats her and their children. She has a great reason to divorce. Or there was a woman who divorced her husband because of an unusual situation. They had continued to live together, mainly because she didn't believe in divorce. He had a girlfriend on the side and a huge spending habit. He used her credit to accumulate 28,000 US dollars worth of debt. He loved shopping and bought a lot of things that he didn't need (when they cleaned out and packed up his room for him they found 78 pairs of underwear!). She was told she couldn't fight the $28,000 worth of debt till she divorced him. Drowning in debt because of a man she was only legally married to overwhelmed her...so she divorced him.
What are the good reasons for divorce? When should a person make this choice?
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16 responses
@angela2006 (1845)
• China
11 Dec 07
yes,we just see the increasing number of divorce,but what is more important is we should pay more attention to the hidden reasons.as you say,abusement is a main reason,and I think if there is abusement in a family,then divorce is the best solution.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
11 Dec 07
For me either or both parties not being happy is a good enough reason for a divorce, we only get one stab at life and to me spending it in a unhappy relationship is wasting a good life, we owe for the life we have been given and we should try and he happy as much as possible. If there is children involved as much as they would love to have both parents with them I am sure, they will soon have their own lives to live and I am sure they would like their parents to live happy lives and not waste that life being unhappy for them...
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
12 Dec 07
Great answer!! We only get one shot why waste it with the wrong person or out of the fact that you are comfortable with a person and are afraid that there might not be anyone else better suited for you! I really need to re-evaluate!
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@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
11 Dec 07
Depends on who's idea of "good" we are using.
Some people think that because the S/O snores, that's a good reason.
And some think that only in adultry should a divorce be granted.
Others feel that even if you're being abused you should stay with him because afer all, you made a promise. I find that revolting and inhumane. Sin or not, I'm not staying with a man who uses me as a punching bag. Your body is only designed to take so much abuse before it shuts down.
The only thing that should matter is if *you* feel justified in asking for a divorce. The rest of the world or your family should have no say so in your life or how you live it.
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@tiffiny (872)
• United States
15 Dec 07
For me I would divorce my husband only if he beat me. I belive that I could make it work if he cheated on me but only the first time. And I'm not saying it would be easy. But I really love my husband and I would stay threw hell for him unless he raised his hand to me or my kids. Then the gloves come off.
@froggylovesu (173)
• United States
11 Dec 07
Sadly my marriage of 16 + years ended in 2003 do to emotional abuse . I know my Lord must forgive divorce.
For in 2007 I am remarried cherished loved respected
home of own . But neither does the Lord like divorce
for I knew my Lord wept me when that marriage ended .
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@audrey1985 (47)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 07
actually there is no good reason to divorce. It brings sadness to the children. the parents have to do their best to save the marriage.
@bishu_sinha (1457)
• India
15 Dec 07
Tough Devorce is not healthy for our society, but it is happening. A lot of couples go through this. One way could be to win your happiness in love to each other. it may mean some compromises, but may be a good thing overall.
@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
13 Dec 07
I think you can divorce a person when you are intensely unhappy with that person, when you can't enjoy life, however much you try and you can't grow and flourish as a human being. I think you can divorce a person if he/she mentally and physically tortures you. I think you can divorce a person who cheats on you emotionally and sexually. I think you can divorce a person who is not a good father or mother to the chidren and is giving them a really horrible childhood. And umm, well... If leaving a person can make you a better, happier, wealthier, and healthier person, divorce him/her even if the world sees nothing wrong with that person.
@cartoon4umaniacs (1648)
• United States
12 Dec 07
I can forgive on almost everything except cheating. That is something that I can't move on and let go off. If I know that he did cheat on me then I am gone. I believe in being faithful to one another. For your friend here, she made a good choice to divorce him. The marriage was already over when he crossed the line...
@louie23 (17)
• United States
12 Dec 07
well i think some good reasons are cheating constently lieing to you umm if you guys just dont feel the same about each other or if one or the other doesnt feel the same ummm if you really love someone u wont leave them no matter wat but if u dont love them then there is no point
@oguchai (6)
• Nigeria
12 Dec 07
i have a very good reason for divorce because if you get married to someone you dont love it will lead to divorce because sometime our perent make us to get marry to someone we dont love and feel for from our heart so if you dont love someone you better divorce him/her now.
@karilyn (40)
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
it's either there's a 3rd party, the one is cheating or they're not happy anymore with each other so no reasons anymore to stick with each other
@annettenasser (2992)
• Kuwait
11 Dec 07
Divorce is option when both of you are no longer feeling any care for each other and staying together will be worst than parting ways.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
12 Dec 07
There are many reasons for divorce- abuse, cheating, money, etc.. I would also think that possibly getting married too young and years later falling out of love with the person instead of more in love with time. Though not a good reason people may get divorced because they get bored with the person, so bored that the person just starts to grate on their nerves. Some could get divorced because maybe they have known someone else for a long time as a friend and maybe they fell in love with that person. I think there are many reasons- my ex husband cheated on me so that was my reason...
