Learning to Receive

The inability to accept compliments gracefully often lies within our own self-image. We may feel unworthy of being complimented. Perhaps the best way to overcome your problem with accepting compliments is to find a good friend who will help you role-play. Have her compliment you, and respond by smiling and saying "Thank you." Practice, practice, practice! If someone has helped you do the thing you are being complimented for, say if a friend has done your hair up and you get a compliment, you could say, "Thank you, my friend Mary styled it for me" or whatever is appropriate to the situation. If someone gives you a gift, simply say "Thank you, what a lovely gift." Gushing will make you sound insincere. Find some activity that you are good at to improve your self-esteem, and realize that no one judges us as harshly as we judge ourselves!

I totally understand how you feel! I find it so hard to accept help, compliments and gifts! I think that if you are more of a giver, you tend to have trouble with reversing the roles. If you are generous you feel like you are taking even though whoever it is is just giving to you what you have given to them and many others. I think the first step in learning to accept compliments is to learn to accept who you are and appreciate your value. A lot of struggling to accept compliments is that you don't actually beleive deep down that what the person is saying is true of you. You think that you're not worth the compliment. Maybe write a list of 10 things you do well every day or 10 things that you have acheived. It will help you to see your positives more. Then you need to accept that others need to have the ability to give to you just as you have the need to give to others. You need to allow this to happen. If you see it as more a need of theirs rather than a need of yours, it may help you to accept their compliments more. I hope this helps!

Sweets it is not fair to not allow someone to help you if they want to...It is as much a gift to accept a gift as when you give one..I assume you are a nice giving person..Well then be gracious enough to accept the things that when accepted will make someone feel that 'all warm inside feeling' that one gets when they have given a gift to someone they care about! Honey just swallow hard and say" Thanks so much. You are very kind to me and I appreciate your gift"...or just "Thanks"! I called you Sweets cause I think you arew...you're welcome! lol xooxxoxoxo

Everybody is different. On the contrary, I like to hear the compliments to me. It will make me very glad. When others say something good about you, just be confident to accept it:)

Well, it does seem that you have some self esteem issues. Maybe you should take the help and go to counseling over it. I, too, went through some of the same things and I tell ya, the only way to get past it is to realize that you are who you are. take the compliments and say thank you, whether you want to or not. It will get easier with time I promise you. Pray about it also. God heals. let us know how things go and good luck. God bless

It's easy for me to accept someone's compliments.I was very exciting when heart someone's compliments to me.so i was also good at givding others compliments. Don't feel embarrassed when someone express their appreciation to you.You deserved.On the contrary,when you get someone's help,you also hope to receive their appreciation gracefully.so you should accept their thankfulness.Don't think too much about it.such they will feel comfortable. You get someone's help,at the same time,you will try to help them actively.when someone help us ,we should appericiate them in time.Say "Thanks a lot,Thank you very much..."kindly ,loudly.So accept their acknowlegement willingly.

You are not alone there are many who are not comfortable when they recieve a compliment.You just work on your self esteem and tell yourself you are worth the compliment.It sure will perk you up.If you feel that you did not deserve it atleast you will make an effort to live upto it.You dont have to be embarrassed or put down by a genuine compliment.Just acknowledge the compliment by saying, Thank you.As much as you would like to be a giver you will have to accept others help to you.When you are genuinely thanking someone from the bottom of your heart I am sure they will know how you appreciate it.Dont worry they will understand you.