New mothers - how to react to your partner!-
By mushumushu
@mushumushu (6)
December 12, 2007 4:21am CST
Ok so I am a new mum and after 9 months of sacrificing my favourite foods, drinks, activities etc I am now continuing the same thing as I am a mother and b-feeding. I have no problem with that and understand that it comes with having a baby.
what I am faced with however, is a moral dilemma.
SHOULD I BE MAD AT MY PARTNER AS HE HAS NOT ENDURED AS MUCH AS ME?The answer is no! My partner has been so supportve and has shown so much love but I am beginning to feel slightly resentful that his freedom has not been squashed as much as mine!! He gets to go out to clubs and bars, gets to go to work, can drink and eat what he likes and....well I'm sure you can imagine the rest!I know I am lucky to have a child, maybe its the hormones, but I wish I was able to have the same freedom. It seems so unfair that women carrythe child for 9 months enduring morning sickness, heartburn, backpain, nose bleeds, swollen feet and hands, ODD cravings and finally the pain of childbirth and then still have to continue with restrcitions if b-feeding, which i don't want to stop as it gives my child the beat start in life!So what is it? am i being mean or is it hormones?
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4 responses
@shanelli (20)
• Philippines
14 Dec 07
having a baby is one of the highlights of my life that i treasure the most...when i gave birth, i had baby blues (post-partum deppression)for about a week. i felt so low and that i felt my hubby's attention was focused on the baby alone...i felt i was neglected although he doesn't feel that way.blame it to my hormones...hahaha...but then,after that...hubby comes home early...right after work he comes home to attend to me and our son. parenting is both our responsibility...i guess i was lucky enough that he understood me when i opened up to him that i want him (as much as possible)to be always at our side...the joys of hearing his first words, first laugh are just few of the priceless moments weve ever experienced...
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
13 Dec 07
first of all your husband should not be out at clubs and bars. he is a grown man with a WIFE and child. he should go to work and come home. not saying that he shouldnt do anything out side of the house but really he should be home with you. if i were you i would not stand for that. he needs to realize that you need time too. you work 24 hours a day. pump your milk give him a bottle and tell him your going out for a little bit and GO! it will only get worse if you dont put your foot down now.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
13 Dec 07
I am a mom 4 times over and what you are feeling is perfectly normal. Most of us go through it. 1 thing you can do is take a couple hours on a saturday and pump some milk for the baby and leave hubby with the baby while you go out to lunch with your mom or a friend you havent seen in a while. It is something you very much need. Heck why dont you even go and get your nails done or get a pedicure. That is what I did.
@tayjorbray1 (50)
• United States
12 Dec 07
It may be a little of hormones and tiredness.But all in all your partner could think of your feelings more and not go out to bars and clubs and with the food would best they did not eat it around you. You have a right to be upset.
