Shopping alone or with your mate or spouse

I adore doing the christmas shopping and like to be able to make the decisions about grocery shopping, but I don't drive and I've become too ill to walk around town or stores by myself - I usually need someone to push me in my wheelchair. It's depressing because I have such great memories of wandering around in the cold with all the lights up and my arms full of bags of presents. This year I've done 99% of my shopping online. I used eBay and Amazon and I've also used online grocery services so that I can still control what I want to buy. I miss going out and having the independence, but at least there are some ways around it. It's a shame that your husband won't just let you get on with your own baking. It's Christmas afterall! It's ok to treat yourself this time of year!

Hello dear suspenseful friend. My wife usually go shopping together in the supermarket. Most of the time, we just choose what is needed in the house and my wife likes to get some snacks. I have no objection at all. She is free to choose whatever she likes because I know that my wife is not an expensive one. She knows how to make use of the money to the fullest. By the way, as the supermarket is close to our house, we always walk there for shopping. Thanks for your discussion, my dear friend.

Our home sweet home is situated amidst the commercial hub, surrounded by small, medium and big shops of all sorts. Even the vegetable market is walkable distance. There are a lot of shops if you telephone them they send the materials. Therefore shopping is not a waste of time or additional work. If something important and expensive things to be brought, it is my wife who goes out with my son. I just do not like to go for shopping. Because I have a wekness to buy a lot of things which may or may not be required.

well y other half is gone but I always did the shopping he hated to go. and real better is better for you than Margarine! I wish I could find the post on this . It was in here several months ago . but if they cooked margarine longer it would make plastic! am tring like heck to get my daughter off it but she dont like real butter. hehe but I put it in all I cook. As for shopping now I cant drive all that far yet so daughter does it all but I help with the menu and shopping list!. If ya live out in the country I would just go out and drive to learn then go back and get my drivers liceince! He shouldnt have thrown them away you must of past the test to get them so you must no something about driving! I started driving at age 13 on a farm driving the hay Truck with loader on the side so had to learn to make those turns with out taking the fence with me lol good luck

First off, he wouldn't throw away my license, but from that and him making the decisions, I can assume he is very very controlling. Even though we both drive, and both have vehicles, and we both work full time, we still usually go grocery shopping together. As to who decides what to buy, first we usually make a shopping list of things we need, otherwise we would get everything but those items lol, but while at the store, neither one of us has the sole responsibility of deciding what we are going to buy. If I was like you, I'd go crazy lol not being able to drive. I had a cast on my right leg for 6 months, and I had to depend on others and my husband to drive me wherever, and that about drove me crazy.

Hello Dear!In my family wife's always take care about money and shopping!!My hubby even don't know how much money we have!!Same is with my father,my mama have all in her hands!My grandmama was the Boss while she was with as,now I am sure she keep money for "HIM" in Haven!..lol...Did you ever watch movies about Mafia ,?Did you notice that mother always have the last word about all!!..lol..here we/women/ have all in our hands our best parts only think that they are the Bosses!!See you and Regards Silvana

I'm in charce of transportation, and my wife is in charge of the household, so I drive the car, and push the trolly while my wife make the purchase decisions. I do give advice when required, and I can say if there is something I'd like.

I drive, but we still usually go shopping together. Especially now that we don't live on base, and the truck is having issues. I can't go anywhere while he's at work, since he takes the car. So after he gets off work, we go together. I make a grocery list before we go grocery shopping. We make sure we get everything on there. If there are other things that either one of us wants, we just go ahead and get them, as long as we can afford them. My husband would never tell me I couldn't get something from the grocery store, unless it was just too expensive. I do most of the cooking, and he's happy about that. He lets me get whatever I need for whatever I'm making.

He threw away your license????What the heck????Sorry....but that seems a bit harsh to me.I make the choices on what to buy most of the time.....but I get him what he likes....so that evens it out.It doesn't matter if we shop together or not.....we get the things we like(and can afford).I could not stay with someone that tries to tell me what I can have to eat or not....I would simply laugh in his face if he ever did that.

I've been shopping alone for 2 days now, hubby had to do other things and I can no longer delay our christmas shopping for the remaining gifts.In a way it's good to shop alone without my hubby :) No one is pushing me to make it faster but of course,quite sad too because I have no one to ask to if this or that is ok..:)

It depends on the situation. Certain times you need the help of the spouse for shopping. Certain times you woudl prefer to be alone while shopping. It is purely an indivdual decision and requirement dependant.

Suspensful this is a great topic. Especially for me. My husband took over shopping when I was pregnant because I got nauseated by all the smells and exhausted - I always get a little tired at some stores - overwhelmed - like sensory overload - especially Costco or Walmart. He seems to remember all of the things I like - but mostly the ones not good for me. He's like the food devil (I hope using that term doesn't offend you - he is far from a demon!). Food is one of the big ways he shows affection. So I'm trying to get back to pre-baby body but it difficult. I don't drive - never have - I have a mild dyspraxia - kind of like dyslexia - but words are fine - its certain physical things that are challenging - left and right - ziplock bags - etc- so this is really easier to have him shop. He actually likes shopping. I do wish I could drive so I could get to Trader Joe's. My neigbhors and landlords though are big on saving money and not adding to environmental stress, so now that we've moved here, we share rides to the co-op for fresh vegetables and once a month to the Trader Joes. When our shared garden is up in spring we'll have fresh veggies right here. And there are chickens too - so no more buying eggs. I really need more proetin though...I have to start cooking more. My husband gets home at 12 midnight and he eats out a lot and likes easily microwavable stuff. I figure though, if i start cooking yummy stuff... I guess I'm a bit off topic. I do wish I had a car, or did - or that I knew driving wouldn't be a challenge. But now that we're here, I can share rides. But it be nice to be able to take our baby to the Biologicial park (lotsov different kinds of gardens - and the adjoining zoo and aquarium. As you can tell from previous posts - in that religious thread I adore animals. Likely you think I'm naive or like a child from what I said and how I said it, but I'm very much interested in animals and have read a lot. Had we decided to transfer to the base in Penscecola after Christmas, I would likely have taken zoology courses. Just as a side note, the other reason I want to be in good shape is because I'm older with a baby and want to have lotsov energy for him - I seem to have it in spades but... and we have diabetes in the family. So I pretty much like to eat a rainbow as far as foods. A balance. However, when he brings me home my favourite ice cream - or pad thai, or chinese food, gyros - its hard to say no when its right there!

well i know driving and have a car of mine as well.however i alawys go with my partner for shopping so that we can buy things of our own chioce rather than later telling that i wanted something else and you got me something else.we normally go shopping on weekends and also have meals outside.we do our shopping mutually.i tell him my budget for everything and he choses the best in my budget.so a happy happy situation.

I have a drivers license but we still go shopping together. My hubby is very good about shopping. He throws into the cart, what ever he wants and I put in whatever I want. There is never a problem or talk about it. We just both get what we want. I look at prices to shop frugally and my hubby doesn't even look at the prices. He says if he wants it he buys it no matter what it costs. Now, we are not wealthy by any means, but when it comes to food there is no scrimping.

I usually shop alone but sometimes hubby goes with just to make sure I buy some junk food. lol I normally don't buy the crap but he was brought up on alot of junk food so I've been having a hard time getting him to eat healthier. Pardon me, thou, but why did your hubby throw your license away? He had no right to do that. I would of belted my hubby if he were ever to do that. I have my own car and long as I can safely drive, I will.

Of course I like go shopping with my husband. But it seems that men are not interested in spending time in shopping. But shopping is like an entertainment for women. So if I am alone, I just want to buy something necessary. If I am with my husband, I like walking every part of the department stores and don't want to miss anything in it:)

Is he afraid that you will overspend or what? Maybe you two can sit down and make out a budget and make sure you stick to that. And then you could try to find someone else to take you to do the grocery shopping. That way he wouldnt be nit picking at every little thing that you wanted to buy. My husband does the same thing to a certain extent. He said "you are the only want to eat it" also. Maybe you could also sit down and talk to your husband about how your feeling. Let him know that you would like to be able to make more decisions when it comes to the shopping. Good luck, i hope it all works out for you.

I don't have many friends I can shop with, there is this guy at work but we have diffrent taste. my wife and i have split so I go it alone most of the time. I do like to take my sons shopping, well my oldest one especially he enjoys it more than the other one dose.I couldn't imagine having to rely on others to take me where I need to get to, since my oldest starting driving last year he goes out on his own a lot which leaves me to shop alone but I know he needs to get out every once in a while.

We only have one car as well. I don't drive even though I know how. I refuse to drive in New Jersey. I hate the traffic here! I will drive anywhere when I am in Mississippi though. It also helps that I always know where I am going when I am there. I would get so lost here if I were alone! I recently let my license expire, I really need to renew it, but I don't drive here so I forget about it. When I go shopping with my husband for food, I make the decisions. If he says he wants something, he gets it. But he never questions my judgement on what I buy, never. If anything, he asks me what I want to get. I do wish I were not afraid to drive here though.

I knw EXACTLY how you feel. I dont drive either, and my boyfriend goes with me to the store all the time, so he desides everything too. You arent alone!