Stupid Hipocrit Step Dad
By angelface23
@angelface23 (2494)
United States
December 13, 2007 8:39am CST
so this is more about my step dad than my mom but she is kind of involved. So my step dad thinks he is like the model Christian. I am here to set him straight. All he does is go to church and read the Bible all day long. Me and my husband have been having money troubles and I had asked my MOM for some money a few times. Then a few weeks ago our electric was gonna get shut off and my grandma called my mom to ask her to help out. I didn't know my grandma was going to do this. so Chuck answers the phone and when she tells him about our situation the first thing out of his mouth is, "well we dont have any money". What an A$$hole!! Then what put me over the edge was I needed my mom to pay our internet bill but not because we didn't have the money, just because they needed a credit card and we are overdrawn at the bank. I was giving her the money right back. SHe says yes and there's no problem but then CHuck calls me right back and starts cussing me out telling me NEVER to call there again asking for money. I told him to go f*ck himself and hung up.
For one it's none of his business and secondly, if he's such a great Christian then wouldn't he want to help me.
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
13 Dec 07
regarding the internet thing - maybe chuck doenst know the money problems they are having. as for your money problems maybe you need to cut back on some things so that you can afford to keep your electric on. try cutting coupons printing them from the internet and ask family for the coupons they dont use. try to cook more often instead of going out. also try making a large meal that can be used for other things. for instance i made a whole chicken on monday so monday night we had chicken stuffing potatos then tues we had chicken sandwiches and on wed i used the rest to make soup. i mad 3 meals out of a 10 dollar chicken not bad! maybe you should cut your cell phone plan or cut out cable and internet.
as for him being a christian hipocrit as you say. yes he should want to help people but not if it is a consistant thing. if you are always asking for money to pay your bills he may be sick of it. sorry about all the brutal truth but it seems to me like you need it. think about a couple things... are you asking for money for bills but going out and buying things all the time? do you have cable internet cell phones and new cars? i think you need to come up with a budget fit to how much money you and your husband make. i do understand having money problems i know we do but we also dont spend on anything the what we have to key word there HAVE to not WANT to.
Remember your mom and him are married and you may ask your mom for money but its his too.
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@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
13 Dec 07
thanks for responding. We only ask for money when it is an emergency. Lately, I admit is has been more often because my husband lost his job and the unemployment is crap. My step dad doesn't even have a job. He hasn't had a job the whole time they've been together. He hurt his back a long time ago and has been on disability. There are still things he can do though. He cleans the church every week so isn't that work. Regardless of whether he gets paid he is still working. He has told my mom that I don't suffer enough because she and my grandma are always bailing me out. Now he is not God and doesn't God say not to be judgemental?? It's just a lot of different things as to why I don't like him, but him calling me out really took the cake.
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@Carnanco (70)
• United States
13 Dec 07
Without knowing all the little details of your situation, it is difficult to say. But there is a difference between helping someone in need and enabling someones poor choices or bad habits. It sounds like he feels your mom is enabling you to continue to have money problems because you feel like she will always bail you out. However if that is how he feels, there are MUCH better ways to address the issue, such as a nice honest adult conversation with you and your mom. Perhaps you should initiate that conversation. The three of you can sit down and discuss exactly what your financial problems are and all the different solutions available to including cutting cost, and borrowing a set amount for a set period of time.
Whatever the situation, it is his business if money that would belong to the THEIR household is being given to you. It is his business because it effects him, even if he did not earn the money.
@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
13 Dec 07
He cussed you out? And yes your right christians are supposed to want to help others out. If i was you i would just try to ignore your stepfather. I hope your money situation gets better. Maybe next time you need some help you could ask someone else so then you dont have to deal with chuck.
