Living common law versus marriage

Hi violeta, I agree as long as couples have the same benefits as when married and protection is in place for children. I know a couple living common law who have two children, and they are and always have been great parents. The oldest is now at university, fourth year I believe, and still has a great relationship with her parents. The boy is 16 and has a really good relationship with his parents as well. Both parents are very supportive and many married couples could certainly take a page from their book. Blessings.

Hi JoyfullOne, Thank you for responding. I can see that you believe very strongly in marriage, and that is fine. Here in Canada, the government has extended the same rights to those living common law as married couples have, and that's something that I agree with. As for children, couples don't have to be married to be good parents, I've seen proof of that. At the same time, I am in my second marriage, my first wife passed away after 28 years and eventually I married again, so I guess I would have to say that it's right for me. To each his own. Blessings.

I have to agree that it's definitely 'to each their own!' What's right for one isn't always what's right for another. I know I would never put down somebody who chose common law over a piece of paper, as I have many friends (and family) who choose living together as opposed to marriage. Lots of good discussion in this thread! Have a happy holiday!

Hi lecanis, I agree, it's a matter of personal choice, Thanks for responding. Blessings.

Hi shak, Thank you for commenting. I believe it has to be left to each persons opinion. Blessings.

Hi nkhanna, Thank you for responding. I think it depends on the people involved. There must be protection for both , and having children is a very serious matter whether a couple is married or not. It can work out well both ways . Blessings.

Not for everyone... we chose to marry, and have chosen to stay together... we gave each other the option 44 years ago that, if we decided that we wanted out, we wouldn't have any argument... it would just be over. So we have never HAD to stay married... we've WANTED to!

Hi nichole, Thank you for commenting. I agree that marriage is not important for many people today, and I think it's a matter of personal choice. I wish you will in your plans. Blessings.

Hi smacksman, I think there are times when a relationship has to end, married or single, and often it's better for the children too. I do agree with you that parents often lack commitment. They has gotten into relationships without giving it any thought. I agree too that a lot of divorces aren't necessary. Thanks for responding. Blessings.

Hi Denmarkguy, Congrats to your mom and stepdad. It certainly works well for them. As for young people, if the laws of the country give equal protection, I don't think it matters. Blessings.

Hi Mirita, Thank you for your thoughts, and I respect your opinion. I am in my second marriage, my first wife passed away, and I remarried after a few years. I do think that it's a matter of personal choice though, and some common law relationships work out very well. Blessings.

Hi devilangel, Thanks for commenting. We have very similar ideas. Blessings.

Hi spled4u, Thank you for your thoughts on this. If God created marriage, as you say, he should have prepared people better for it. The high rate of divorce is a big reason for people living common law, and some such relationships work out very well, for parents and for children. I don't believe that God created marriage, it was man, and that's why there are so many problems. Blessings.

Hi yanxchick, Thank you for responding. It sounds as if you are doing fine as you are, don't change what's not broken. Blessings.

Hi skinnychick, Congratulations, I'm happy that it's working for you. It is a matter of choice. Blessings.

Hi SONIA12MAN, I think that it depends on how you feel about it. I am msrried, but it's not for everyone. If you want to get married someday, then you should. Blessings.

yep some people do it because they have been through hell . but thanks for your comment. it is so cool to be married i'm happy for you. my friend actually she's my boyfriends friend and she invited me over to spend the week end with her and her boyfriend. i asked her if I can bring my boyfriend she said no. and he was standing next to the phone, he took the phone from me and said that he's coming anyway because he's driving me over and he's not visiting her just her boyfriend. so when we got over he told me he's not even going to greet her but as soon as we got out of the car she came out hey hey see who's here i told you to stay home. he gave her a hung and they chat and laugh . so I called him and said did not you promised not to greet this lady? the chase me inside the house so every one just running around . then her daughter said mummy why are you guys running and she reply they are looking for me. the kid sat down on the chair I was hiding behind and dail her phone to call her 8yrds old friend . she said my aunt is her and uncle and my mum is always going wild she gets too happy. i got out of hiding and she told me not to tell mummy. i said trust me. we are always having fun . but for some people i think that if you have break up number one, breka up number two break up number three then you feel like there is no point doing it look at Pamela Anderson, how many times has that woman done little quickies marriages? it is why she si breaking up again. when i go over to my boyfriends friend's home like i said above it is always crazy they both study martial arts so they get in to it and we have to watch them and support the favorite. one day he was not winning and he said to his friend in Chinese that she should not disgrace him because his girl friend is watching. she could not fight any more and started laughing she ran to me and said blessed your boyfriend i'm going upstairs i wil be back. I asked him what. he won't say he said that gul is afraid to lost the game. so during dinner i asked her why were you laughing so much. she told me what he said in Chinese . i understand a little of it so i started laughing and i replied in Chinese and told him he's sleeping downstairs. every one began to laugh.

Hi Ravenladyj, I believe the law has changed here in Canada. Having the same rights is very important. Having children is of course a big committment, but has been known to work equality well for some couples. Blessings.

Hi kimberlylynn, Thank you for commenting. I agree that some people need marriage, others are fine without it. I guess it's a matter of personal choice. Blessings.