Does it matter...

United States
December 13, 2007 10:38pm CST
Does it matter to you if your lover is shorter or taller than you? Some people have a fixation on height and claim that they don't want a lover that is taller than them - for the males(no tall women - lol) or shorter than them - for the women(no short men - lol). What is your take on this? Does it really matter to you if your lover is taller or shorter or whatever? Just curious.
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@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Height does not matter. Before I broke my back I was 6' and at one time I dated a guy that was 5'5". His friends gave him a hard time but he just laughed and told them they were jealous!
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• United States
14 Dec 07
He was right!! Most times when people have negative things to say, they either don't understand something or they wish they had it themselves. Take care!!
@chunter (1759)
• Singapore
14 Dec 07
I don't think it matters if my partner is shorter or taller than me...no matter what other people might say... I think the most important is not others but whether me or my partner minded that...
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• United States
14 Dec 07
So true. It's all about the two of you being happy. No worries about the thoughts of others. They don't have to see you...or be in a relationship with either of you, so their opinions should not matter. Take care!!
• United States
14 Dec 07
It does matter to me. I could never be with a guy younger or shorter than me. It's just not attractive to me at all. I want to feel protected and taken care of.
• China
14 Dec 07
It does really matter to me! I always find the guy can protect me , and give me safe feeling! If a guy shotter than me , i don't think there is any safe feeling to me! And I don't know how to wear my lovely high heels!
• United States
14 Dec 07
I guess most of us do have a image of the "perfect" mate. So some of us just look for the person who matches this vision, missing out on people who will fill their emotionally need but just don't look the way they thought they would.I personally would prefer a man a little taller than I but if I met a guy who loves hockey and loves movies as much as I and he was a little shorter than I, it would be okay.
• China
15 Dec 07
I totally agree with you,sarah.I think it`s more important to share something,especially the things i like with my boyfriend.We should have common things. And lots of my friends fall in love with the guys seem not so suitable for their standard.But it`s ok. They are happy with each other.
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@eykah13 (437)
• Philippines
15 Dec 07
As they say, height doesn't matter, as long as your happy and contented to the relationship. I myself is an example. Im 5'7" and my boyfriend is about only 5'5". Although I dreamt of having a taller boy, it doesnt matter now anyway cause I'm very much happy having him..
@mrsjbelle (1640)
• United States
15 Dec 07
To me it doesn't matter a bit. Whomever I fall in love with is fine:)
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
15 Dec 07
Danny Devito - Danny Devito image
For me, it doesn't matter. As a mater a fact, I adore Danny Devito. I would miss a date or spend a live time with him. Because he is so funny and i like him.
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
14 Dec 07
You know, because I am 6'4" (193cm) this has NEVER been an issue I have even thought about. I am not sure I have even personally known a woman who was taller than I, let alone dated one. In reverse, however, I have been rejected for being "too tall." She said it felt more like I was a "body guard" than a boyfriend. To each their own, I suppose...
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
14 Dec 07
Even though looks does matter to me, height is one thing I'm not particular about. I have no preference at all when it comes to height. I am impressed though with tall women. It certainly catches my attention.
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
14 Dec 07
I don't mind if my loved one would be shorter or taller than me.When you love a person you don't look at those things but you look at the inner side of the person. I do have probems with ages but others don't .
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
14 Dec 07
Yes I think it can be quite important depending on the height difference. One such couple was a man who was a was dwarf, and a tall woman. When they were Nose to Nose his toes were in It, and when they were Toes to Toes his nose was in It!
@monty24 (154)
• India
14 Dec 07
Well friend,It does not matter to me wheather my fiancee is shorter to me or not.Actually I and my fiancee is same hight..so it wont matter to me..
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
15 Dec 07
I'm not fixated on height or anything but I like my men taller than I and with a little meat on their bones- I like to cook so I like men that like to eat! :) I can't go for short men especially shorter than me- I'm only 5'5", not that I would really care what anyone would say but just because personally I'm not attracted to shorter skinnier guys. I like strong,masculine and bigger than me to cuddle up with! :)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I don't care about taller or shorter. I do like the felling I get looking up at a taller guy, but it would not stop me from dating someone shorter or as tall as I am. I did see a guy who was my height and all he ever talked about was how much better shorter guys are. It made me sick that he talked about it so much that I stoped dating him because I thought he had low self esteem.
@chari_dc (492)
• Philippines
14 Dec 07
it actually matters a lot to me. you see, i am a short girl. so i'd really like a tall guy for me. back in college, a friend of mine set me up on a blind date with a guy she thought really matched my personality. so when i met the guy, i was really expecting something to come out of it. but when i saw him and he was as short as i am.... whoa.. i couldn't help but get turned off. i'm not really after the looks but height is really important to me. now i'm married to a guy 9 inches taller than me. we're happy but his height isn't really the basis of our life-long happiness. :)
• United States
14 Dec 07
My husband is about 2 inches shorter than I am. It has never bothered either one of us. I guess the old saying "love is blind" fits really well in that situation. I would love my husband just as much no matter what height he was or how he looked. I love what's inside, not what's outside.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
14 Dec 07
well i would obviously want my partner to be taller than me.however i fall in love with a person who is shorter than me and i actually love him and he too ,then at no cost i will think about his hieght.its because for me love is above all.i cannot live with a person who is taller than me but does not love me,however i will love to live with a person who is shorter than me but loves me more than anything.
• China
14 Dec 07
i am a man and i think my lover is taller than me is not good. but if one day i meet a very good lover i think i'll not mind it because i love her. that's not a really problem.
@xunyicao (45)
• China
14 Dec 07
hi ,I am a female,I want my lover is taller than me .I think like this it can gives me a security sense. So my standard is that my lover is taller than me, I can't love the male short than me .