can friends become lovers?
By aaslin
@aaslin (123)
India
December 14, 2007 12:07pm CST
i have a great feeling in my mind...can friends become loners? at first when we become friends we think to be loyal,sincere friends....but why we fall in love with friends?is it because of attraction?if our friend gets hurt what can we do?
6 responses
@hillock (749)
• Qatar
29 Dec 07
well almost all of my ex boyfriends are my friends. im not into instant attraction and i admit guys dont fall in love at me at first sight! LOL!
i always tell my friends about it that im the last impression type. im snob when you dont know me but when you are my friend you would like me a lot. thats what happened on all my relationship. we tend to hang out first and then suddenly we fall for each other so thats the start of it.
it just too bad cause when we broke up its pretty hard to get back at being friends! ^-^
@errielle (442)
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
I think yes. Feelings can actually develop. But not all i guess. it depends on how each other feel. But when both decides to be lovers, they still have to keep the friendship... i think =)because that's what keep them different from other lovers. It would only be very difficult especially if the cause of the hurt is the other party. However, it would still be good to keep the friendship.
@noriko (1254)
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15 Dec 07
it depends, friends can be lovers if they will both allow it. just like can lovers be friends as long as they both agree to be friends after being in a love relationship
@Cindy405777 (300)
• China
18 Dec 07
Maybe the nice feeling pushes you to become the lover! when that feeling become stronger, you will be the lover! Wow, how great it is ! LOve is very good ! And be loved is very great!
@twanislost (241)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Wow, aaslin...
Great minds sure do think alike... I came up with this same discussion a couple hours ago. Are you currently in this situation or are you just wondering.
Me, I am and have been in this situation for years with no end in sight. It's hard as hell, love is hard in general but when it hits this close to home it's crazy.
I'll check back for your post and other responses.
@jrichtback (97)
• United States
21 Dec 07
Yes I do believe that friends can be lovers because they know you so well, it just brings your friendship a little closer together. Sometimes the reason we fall for our friends is because we see in them what they can do for us and vice versa. When a friend gets hurt it takes time to heal but sometimes (not always) you can still be friends later if things don't work out.
