First time grandmother

My mom and I live across the US from eachother. It's really hard for us to have a good relationship becuase of the distance. But I love when she calls me just becuase she's going home from work and wanted to see how we were doing. But when she was giving me advice that I really didn't want I just flat out told her and that pushed her away. She felt like I didn't want anything from her. But after not hearing from her for two weeks I called her up and was like hey what's the matter and she said that she was giving me distance that she though I wanted. So the whole point to the story is to talk candidly with your daughter about it. I would do it over lunch or something. Just so that you are face to face. See if you can help set up her nursery with her or something anything. Then talk about meeting her once a month, either they could come to you or you could go to them what ever works best for you guys. But don't condem yourself for past mistakes. Comeing from the other side of this; I hope it helped.

Firstly, congratulations to you! That is very fine news. Being a grandmother must be very joyous! Gosh, I wish I could give you some good advice. :) My daughter lives 5 minutes away from me by car. Surely she could move in the future and I could be in the same situation that you are in. Perhaps you could feel your daughter out, by telling her that you'd love to visit her as often as possible. Perhaps you could ask her how often you may visit her. (Maybe it's good to come right out and ask her for feedback, by being very direct with her?) *I asked my daughter several months ago if she thought that coming over for dinner 2 times per month was excessive. She said it wasn't.

I have four grandchildren and love it. Congradualations!I know what your feeling about being left out, when two of my girls were pregent they wanted me right there with them doing everything then the third girl sorta of shut me out, didn't even want me to come with her to bring the baby home I was heartbroken but made it through it now she feels bad about the way she treated me because I never said how I was feeling so please talk to her and I am sure she will want your help, and grandmothers are allowed to be pushy lol. Good luck

Congratz for getting a grandson. take good care of them.

I was a grandmother at the age of 38 i now have 6 grandkids my oldest has 2 in WI and my other daughter has 4 i have 3 of the 4 living with me so just be glad that you don't have to worry about the child and only give advise when asked and they will ask a lot just set back enjoy the baby. when you want to go see them call and ask if it is a good time and go from their.