My Christmas visit to prison.
By melissacus
@melissacus (441)
United States
December 15, 2007 1:27pm CST
M dad is what society would call a "low-life". He's abusive. He uses drugs. Commits crimes.
He has been in prison for I think 5 years now. This is by no means his first time being there. He's been in and out for as long as I can remember. This time around I didn't write him as much, I talked to him over the phone about 3 times, and I haven't seen him. My two other sister's visit him frequently and my younger brother talks to him over the phone. I don't know what it is. But I don't enjoy talking to him. I don't enjoy seeing him, yet, I have no resentment towards him in the least. I've forgiven him for everything and recognize that I wouldn't be the person I am today in large part due to him.
I'm not sure what the purpose of this post was, just a rant I guess.
4 responses
@ky1119 (698)
• United States
16 Dec 07
It's best that you were able to forgive him for all he's done. Maybe that will play a part in his rehabilitation. I think it's as important to our parents for us to forgive them as it is to us for them to forgive us. They need our acceptance as much as we need theirs.
@melissacus (441)
• United States
19 Dec 07
I agree. I think kids these days too often forget that their parents are just as fragile as they are. I don't see any good in crucifying and scolding him for all he's done in the past, that won't do any good. I think if I show him I've forgiven him and believe in the person he is it might give him the strength to start being better for himself.
Thanks so much for your response.
@DarkSKill (2)
• Poland
15 Dec 07
Uhm dude, Im sorry =//
U should visit him as much, as u can, its my opininion, becouse it will turn ur relationsship to better way!
Regards, Miroslaw!
@melissacus (441)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Definitely. I completely agree. I've decided to visit and talk to him more often. He's made mistakes, but I can tell he's trying to do better and he's still my father.
Thank you for your input.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
15 Dec 07
I agree with you about your comment, "I wouldn't be the person I am today in large part due to him." We all learn from other's mistakes. Even parents make mistakes. I do understand not wanting to talk to him very often or go see him. It has to be terribly difficult on you emotionally. I would think frequent trips to visit would also get "old" after years of visiting someone who means so much to you. We all look up to our parents and when they fail, a part of us fails. My heart goes out to you for doing the best you can.
Happy holidays,
carolbee
@melissacus (441)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Yup. I learned a long time ago that parents aren't invincible. They're human and screw up just as much as us young people.
Thank you very much for your response.
@Lightlord (378)
• Greece
15 Dec 07
Yea... that's probably one of the worst life stories a human being can have. Spend all life in prison... what's the meaning of that? Ruining your life! But we must face the consequences of our actions. I hate prison, I would never want to go there and I think that the people in prison have no life...
