possessive parents

Go back to bed missy! you're gounded!! Oh for sure, I think most parents which are good are a little like this. there's a right balance between it being wrong and bad to actually useful but as of everything they need to let go. Most times it's because they're scared that they're joys have grown and might be moving away, which hard. Kudos, ~Joey

My mother is pretty much the same way. In some respects, she's not so bad. She doesn't care much if I go somewhere or come back late, but she has issues with a lot of things. I can't go to a doctor much without her getting into why I'm going and what I was told and why I got whatever I went to the doctor in the first place. She's obsessed with whatever 'bad' things that I'm doing that apparently I'm not telling her. It gets really, really old.

My husband and myself both had possessive parents. My mother use to be so protective I couldn't date I couldn't go to school events or dances. I couldn't go to friends houses for sleepovers. nothing. See my mom got pregnant with me when she was 15 and I guess she wanted to make sure that it didn't happen to me too. I left home when I was 16 almost 17 because of my mother. Now though we have a great relationship and she is sorry for restricting me from having a normal childhood. My husband's mother is the worse. She would take control of everything. He lived at home until he was 23 at which point he joined the military. She had to have complete control of his bank account. He never knew how much money he had. He just handed her his paycheck. She took care of everything forced him to get what she thought he should get including a car that was out of his price range which later she took for herself. When we said we where getting married she tried to take control of my life too the same as his. Down to how we should live, dress, eat, everything. And I wouldn't take it and my husband realized he needed a life of his own. She couldn't handle not having control over him and now she won't have anything to do with him, mostly because the main thing she did not want him to do which was marry me is what he did. She's like that with everyone. She has to be in control and know what you are doing at all times. Where your going everything.

My parents are a bit like that. What I have done over the years is to patiently prove them how matured, responsible, and trustworthy I am. As the saying goes, "If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one." Show to them that they never have to worry about you.

hello vicky! i think parents are like that specially for girls.. they are very protective. and they are like that even though we are of the mature age, they still want to protect us becuase they dont want any harm would befall on us.. its the nature of parents... we can understand everything what our parents more if we already have a child of our own.. just like me.. im already 30 years old and still single.. everytime i went home late, my mom would text me where i am... even if i want to go to the doctor and my mom knows about it, my mom would want to go with me for her to know the result of my check up.... but sometimes, i feel a little bit annoying, but i dont mind it. i respected my mom so much.. i am glad that she still cares for me and she is always their for me everytime i needed here.. as they said, "mom's knows best"...

I am 17 years old, and for the past four years I have dealt with my parents being very overprotective. I have been homeschooled most of my life, until now. (I go to a community college now and really love it) but this year my parents have really let up on being protective. We've grown in our communication this past year and now my dad is even willing to pay for my boyfriend to fly here over the holidays and stay at our house for two weeks. I think that parents are over protective because they love you and don't want anything to happen to you, but if you take the time to talk to them more and improve your relationship they will let up a bit and start to understand things your way. Believe me I wanted to move out for the majority of my teen years, but now that isn't so important to me. I'm really glad me and my parents now see eye to eye on most things. -Claidissa

I did have this problem as well. But now that i have kids, and am a parent as well.. i can see they my mom was that way. She was just trying to protect me because she loves me and didn't want me to be hurt. Moving out will help a lot, me and my mother get along AMAZINGLY better now that i no longer live with her. I am 27 now and i moved out when i was 17, before that ran away a few times. I always came back eventually, and even after i was 20 and moved out yet again, I was always welcome if i needed a place to stay. So if i were you i would stay on good terms with my parents, and when you leave, thank them for everything that have done for you, and provided you with, and supported you for! They sound like they love you a lot, and you know that they do right ?

Your child is always your child, even when they are 40. Mostly you do not want your child to make bad decisions, but you know they will have to make their own decisions one day, so as long as they are with you you try to lead them. If they do this it is not that they want to controle your life, only want to spare you the consiquinses of a bad mistake. Being a young woman is harder, especialy for the fater. He never wants to see his dughter make a mistake that will affect the r3est of her life (pregnacy), untill the child has had a chance to exsperiance all of life, find a stable man that loves her and can provide for her and his family. So if they treat you this qway be glad, they still care.

my mum always says "you are only 2 years olds even though you are 21 years now" But she will support me when i am right.sometimes she always ask me to follow her advise. But i love my mum ,i respect my mum.

I am over-protective even though my parents were not so much with myself. I think it's just that they are so precious to me and you want to try to protect them from making mistakes. I moved out when I was 18 to live with my boyfriend and ended up quitting college and had to work harder at two jobs instead of getting one better job because my lack of degree. I rushed into marriage and ended up in divorce and it really took me a long time to recover. It sounds like you are very loved and if you are the last child in your family, it is probably even harder for them to let go! All you can do is keep showing that you are mature and making the right decisions and they need to trust you.