Unique Wedding Bands
@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
December 16, 2007 9:19am CST
Although this is a little premature as we haven't the funds for an engagement ring yet, let alone wedding rings, my partner and I are having a disagreement.
I found these rings online today:
http://www.tradeshop.com/temp23/kowalewicz.jpg
I think they're so cute and would reflect our uniqueness as a couple. I thought they'd make a nice change from the usual bands everyone else gets and I just really love them. My partner doesn't agree though, which is strange since he's usually so eccentric and doesn't like doing the normal things the crowd does.
Should I keep trying to persuade him?
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6 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
16 Dec 07
My fiance wants a Sparta band by Scott Kay. We can't afford nice rings right now, so we just got plain ones. I figure we can save up and get better ones for out first anniversary.
Those rings are nice, but the black bats do see a bit morbid. If that's your personality, then great, but it doesn't seem like your fiance agrees.
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@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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16 Dec 07
See I don't find bats morbid, I think they're cute! I thought the rings reflected both our uniqueness. My partner seems to only want Celtic knotwork rings, which are lovely, but everyone we know seems to have them!
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
17 Dec 07
Real bats are cute, Halloween-style bat depictions are pretty morbid. Why don't you just talk it out with him? Also, why does it matter if everyone else you know has Celtic knotwork bands? If it means something to you then it's special. It doesn't matter what other people do or think. It's between you and your fiance.
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@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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17 Dec 07
It's just that I really want to be non-traditional and unique to reflect the way the two of us are. He usually feels the same way because he's really eccentric and overly flamboyant. He said he thinks the rings look cheap. I thought they were so pretty too! D'oh!
I think bats on clothes and jewelery aren't really morbid, just cute. I suppose it's just a personal opinion.
@raydene (9871)
• United States
16 Dec 07
Honey, It's between the two of you.You need to be doing what you can to make each other happy.It's just a material thing but what is in your heart is the important thing..Just love each other and enjoy each other..Be Happy Sweets
xoxoxoxoo
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@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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16 Dec 07
We're not seriously disagreeing, but it's tricky to find something we both like!
I don't know when we'll be able to afford to get married. We're both impatient, but as long as we have each other and our little family (two kitties), we'll be ok! x
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
21 Dec 07
Those rings are different but it wouldn't my choice.
I like white gold, but those cuts are very strange, making me feel not comfortable.
Maybe your bfriend feels it too. Try to find something that you both like. Having an agreement before marriage is not good.
HUGS..:)
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
21 Dec 07
I don't think you should try to talk him into it if he doesn't want it. Guys are usually uncomfortable with the wedding band in general b/c it means so much.
I saw a few bands I liked for my husband, but I let him choose whatever he wanted. He ended up choosing one with just a real simple pattern. I may have been more attracted to the ones with the detailed pattern, but he wasn't at all into those.
In the end, He will be wearing it so he should get what he wants and you should get what you want. The concept that wedding bands have to be the same is no longer the case. At most, guys and girls need to get the same material (silver, platinum or gold), but the actual band can be completely different.
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@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
21 Dec 07
Add to that, all engagement rings of my friends lately have been a ring set that came with a band that somehow nested with it or connected to it. The guy always gets his own style of band that isn't at all like the girls. When I was looking at rings for me, the sets were the best b/c the ring and band fit together nicely.
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@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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18 Dec 07
Do you think it's better to play it safe then? My partner is usually the most untraditional person I know so I've been so surprised by his attitude!
@gigaclix2007 (49)
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
I think you should keep looking, I know you will end up finding something that you both like that reflects both of your personalities. You don't have to keep persuading him. If he likes them, then he will be the one to say it to you. Otherwise, you can tell him, it's just temporary for now until you can both get a set that you both like. Good luck!! and have a great wedding and marriage.
