Dad refused me to say GOOD NIGHT to our kids =(

Hey Stacy. I'm really sorry that yo didn't get to say good night to your kiddos. I woldn't let it get to me in front of him or the kids. Maybe when they are at their dads you can have a diffrent little bed time tradition of tucking their favortie stuffed animal in bed and telling them good night instead.

this is a hard one. i'm also not with my ex and my daughter goes over there every second weekend. i went through the same situation. but now i look at it as look it how many nights i do get to tuck her in and say goodnight that he doesn't get to do. and i say this is his special limited time with her and i let it go. my suggestion to you would be maybe if they take an over night bag with them how about you send them a little good night note. i know it's not the same as you hearing their voice but at least it will make them feel special and know that you are thinking of them.

I honestly believe that what your Ex did was pretty selfish. No matter what the situation is -- any adult should put the children first. What if the situation was flipped and your child was asking your Ex if he/she could call mommy and say goodnight? To say to a child "No, not tonight," wouldn't that be hurtful and just plain out wrong? Regardless of what happened in your relationship your Ex should have simply allowed you to say Good-Nite to your child. How can he deny you the right to say Good-Night to your child? That should work for him too... if he wishes to say Good-Nite to the children -- he should also be allowed too. I just have the mentality of "you never know what's going to happen," and if I missed a day of seeing or saying Good-Nite to my child -- I don't know what I would do if something was to happen to myself or my child.

To tell you the honest truth, I do not know how I would handle this. I am a dad that enjoys telling his girls Good Night every night. I guess if I were in your situation I would have probally left the Good Nights as a message on the answering machine since most people play their messages as soon as they walk through the door which means that the kids would have probally been right there with him when he played it thus hearing their good nights. I am truely sorry that your ex is this non understanding. But please cheer up as 1:00 is comming up real soon. HAVE A GREAT DAY!!!

I can only guess that things are still pretty fresh for you guys. So with that in mind I know that for me before I got custody of my kids ( yes a man with custody ) I kinda felt like it was my time. And that it was an intrusion on the very little time that I had. Think about it for a minute if you only got them a day or two a week you would want to use that time for you, right. The best I can offer is get along and try to understand each others point of view. While this is easier said than done.

there is not much you can do about it you can't really make him make the kids call all you can really do is tell the kids that they are free to call you if they want to talk to you before bed leave the option up to the kids