Thumbsucking, is it good or bad?
By mcjeannie
@mcjeannie (703)
Philippines
December 16, 2007 10:10am CST
Well, I noticed my baby to be thumbsucking since 3 month old.He is now 4 months.What I am concern all about this thumbsucking is that he simultaneously thumbsuck while I bottlefeed him.I had to remove his hands every now and then so he can continue sucking his milk.Unfortunately, we both struggle and then he cries so hard when I stopped him.I understand that babies have a natural desire to suck and is a common way babies try to comfort themselves.But my baby is thumsucking simultaneous while feeding him and his weight seem lighter today...Do you think his thumbsucking is getting way out of hand and would this resort to certain power struggle for me in the future?
All responses are welcome!
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10 responses
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
16 Dec 07
Thumb sucking can be a very difficult problem to solve and can cause lots of problems including teeth growing in crooked. I might ask if you give him a pacifier? I know a lot of people are against them and when they get to a certain age (with all 4 of mine it was one year old) the pacifier can be thrown in the trash - you can't do that with a thumb :( If your not giving him one now you may try that - he may not accept it but if he does much better for you both.
I would be very concerned that he prefers the thumb over food though and may be something you want to ask your pediatrition about - maybe he doesn't like his food or it bothers his stomach so prefers the thumb.
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@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
16 Dec 07
That was I was worried too faith, his lighter weight today.Well, we'll see his pediatrician next week so I might have to ask about it.
I am trying give him pacifier once in a while but he likes it only on short duration then he spit it out.His thumbsucking is more soothing to him.
I would worry about the crooked teeth later, got still time to hope he'll stop by then before the age of 6.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
16 Dec 07
It's probably very soothing for your baby to suck his thumb. I wouldn't worry about it. My experience has been babies that suck their thumbs are more content. We had one daughter who did this and she was always happy. It did, however, cause her permanent teeth to be buck, She had a tremendous overbite. Braces did the job and her teeth today are gorgeous. She's now 31 and is still content and happy. My advice: I'd let him suck his thumb.
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@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
16 Dec 07
Your response was the same with my second sister's advice.That I need not worry about it as his son does it too and he's content and a happy kid.
As far as my knowledge and what I learned in Nursing profession,it is advised that a child can probably suck his thumb until 4-5 years old without damaging his teeth or jawline.However thumbsucking must be stopped before a child's permanent teeth come which is 6-7 years old because of this overbite you are saying.
Well it is a long way to go for me with that age.I would hope he will stop thumbsucking before 6 as this would also prevent the teasing scenes in his school.
Thanks for the encouragement.
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@ashugoel (123)
• India
16 Dec 07
I think the thumbsucking thig is completely natural and you should ot worry about it at all. As the time pass, the habbit of thumbsucking will get away. And thumbsucking is not the reason for the light weight of your baby.
I will suggest you something, if you are that much worried about the thumsucking of ur kid. Buy a honey filled artificial nipple, which is easily available in the market and just use it to keep ur baby busy in sucking the nipple. As the time pass, the habbit of thumbsucking will go away.
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@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
Honey filled artificial nipple?Wow that amazing innovation.I am not aware of such as I haven't seen one.Thanks for the idea!
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@jimbelle (485)
• Philippines
16 Dec 07
Thumbsucking may be normal up to 4 years old. Experts says that babies thumbsuck because they are bored or stressed. One way is to divert their attention to other things or talk to him when he is older and let him understand the side effects of thumbsucking after 5 years old. Even at the age of 4 to 6 months you may prevent babies from thumbsucking by holding his hand and divert his attention and keeping him from getting bored or stressed by playing and talking to him. That's how I did it with my kid. The difficult to control is when he thumbsucks in order to sleep.
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@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
Mine is the gladness of your sharing!Thanks.
He spit the pacifier voluntarily in a short period so I am pretty sure I wouldn't have a hard time weaning him from it!
@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
Very true...I had been talking to my child whenever he thumbsuck and his attention is diverted.I also put one finger each on his palm and he tries playing and holding it.So he tend not to thumbsuck for a while!
I gave him pacifier as what some responders suggested here and that worked too during his sleep!
@jimbelle (485)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
I am glad it is working. But please minimize giving pacifier too.It has same effect as thumbsucking. You may have difficult time weaning him from pacifier later. Another thing is he might be satisfied sucking the pacifier that would lessen his sucking of milk too.
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
17 Dec 07
I wouldn't worry about this to much at this point. He's only 4 months...it's when he's four and still doing it that you might wanna try something to stop him. it will make his teeth buck out. I was a thumb sucker and my mother never tried to stop me until she met my step dad. They let it go way to long though. i was ten before i quit, even though i only did it at night when i went to bed. I had to have braces though and that gets expensive. I would try to stop him by the time he's one, no later than two. It is natural for them to want to suck on things, but sometimes it passes...other times, you have to help them see that it's not a good thing to do. hope this helped or made you feel a little better. God bless
@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
Thanks for sharing your experience.I see you are you are adult thumsucker too.
You may want to check my other discussion about adult thumsucker.
@fanji008 (775)
• China
17 Dec 07
Hi,there! I think that's babies' habit. It's like it happens naturally.When I was young,I also used to do that and liked that pretty much.I did stop doing that until I was 5 or 6 years old.I notice that many kids have this problem.I think parents should make the kids form the habit not to suck their thumbs.If you always tell them not to do that,they'll correct it one day.But if at the beginning,you don't pay attention to it,then it would be difficult later to talk him/her to give it up.Thanks for the discussion and best regards for you and your baby^_^
@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
I am not sure if I did thumbsuck when I was young.Yes sucking is infact inherent upon birth .It is a twin of rooting reflex that is essential for babies to survive.So I was thinking, my baby resorting to thumbsucking might give a bad effect later in his growth and dvelopment.And you being one who did it had proven, in a point you had stopped.So that is so reassuring.
Thanks fanji for participating.
@keminem001 (779)
• Saint Lucia
17 Dec 07
well it can be both good and bad. good, in that it can help your baby relax and calm him/her down. bad, he/she could develop a bad habit which they will not loose until they are grown up. i know of a friend of mine who used to suck his thumb since when he was 2 years old and he is still doing it now he is 13 years old. his thumb is sooo ugly! from all that sucking, it is really disgusting. you should try to make your child end the habit.
@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
I still got plenty of time...till the age of 6.
Well, in regards to your friend who's an adult thumsucker, that's one concern of mine if my son would carry it on even later in life.
You could also check my other discussion about adult thumsucker.
@amey_dev143 (483)
• India
16 Dec 07
Thumsucking is very natural for a 4 month baby.But it might spoil the natural shape of the teeth and make the baby look ugly even though the teeth are clean.All I can say is let the baby suck the finger,but when the baby is asleep take the finger out of the baby's mouth and you are done.But never force the baby because it might make the baby more aggressive towards thumbsucking.
@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
Yes, I've seen it as very soothing to my child and you're right too he tend to be aggressive trying to thumbsuck when I prevent him too!
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
16 Dec 07
I have heard both schools of thought. My kiddos never did suck their thumbs, but my hubby did with no problems later in life.
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
I just open for discussion topic on thumbsucking. I have 3 nieces who all thumsucked up to their high school year. In fact my daughter who is 16 years of age and about to graduate from high school is still thumbsucking. Weve done everything to stop her but to no avail. But she do that at home, while in bed and about to sleep. Based on readings those thumbsucking is a sign of insecurity. But to my mind how can a toddler be insecured. But while eating one time with my daughter she signal to me a young man about 19 years old thumbsucking in front of his family and friends in sight of many customers. We both laugh and just say amen.
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