Have i been watching too much tv, or would you be worried too if this was you ?
By Sissygrl
@Sissygrl (10912)
Canada
December 16, 2007 11:21am CST
My husband was hitch hiking to work on thrusday (which in canada is fairly safe still) and a religous man picked him up. They got to talking and althrough We are not religous people, my hubby's mom is, so he knows a little bit about religon and i barely know how to spell it lol. Anyways, this man invite our family to a service where there would be a free lunch, and present for our daughter. He called this morning to confirm we would be going and my hubby was asleep as he works midnights. The guy kept telling me that he could pick us up cause he has a minivan, and I dont know what tot hink! I am glad i said we would not be going, because that guy really gave me the willies! I mean he knows that hubby works midnights, so if he knew where we lived, that would mean he would know i would be home alone with a baby all night. I wasn't really ever scared a bout being alone before now!!
Would you have gone? or would you opt out like i did ?
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17 responses
@solson (406)
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16 Dec 07
Well looks like you made the right choice.I would have done the same thing and i am a guy so thats not wrong of what you did. Why does your husband hitch hike if you dont mind answering. You can buy cars for nothing if you find the right place take a look around so then you never have this problem again.
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
16 Dec 07
either of us have our license! we have never bothered because we both lived in the city most of our lives, so we just took busses. now we live in a small town and he works in a few towns over. he usualy has a ride to work with friends, but othertimes he has to find his own way. He actually LIKES to hitch hike. he's crazy. I have done it a few times before i had a baby, and its scary to me!
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
16 Dec 07
I try to stay away from churchie type people. It's not that i have anything against them, they are fine as long as i dont have to listen to their beliefs over and over, and they try to make me believe what they believe. To each their own. I have the same sort of morals as christians i guess, like the ten commandments are pretty much just common sense if you wanna stay your butt outta trouble right ? :P
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@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
16 Dec 07
I agree - better safe than sorry
I think what makes one worry has a lot to do with ones own previous experiences. Around here it is fairly common to meet people that try to recruit me to their churches. So to me that is an usual event that has never proven to be dangerous. But I agree - if you feel uneasy about this man you should be careful.
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@myworkid1987 (755)
• United States
18 Dec 07
i wouldve opt out for him to come pick me up but if i had a ride their by someone i knew i would go. some random person knowing where you live is not good. You made a smart decision. lol
@mojo409 (28)
• India
17 Dec 07
Hey you see! you dont know anything about that person, whether he is very fine or something really wrong with him. You just cant make blind assumptions on that person. Who knows he might be really very casual while inviting you.
I dont say you should have gone but still I feel there is no wrong in going. Absolutely no problem for going there because you are going there with your husband's knowledge.
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
18 Dec 07
I think had he not been so persisitant in wanting to pick us up, and repeating the fact that he had a minivan a few times, I may have walked there, but again i'm not religous so what right did i really have goign there just to get a free dinner and present for my kid anyways?! I had no intentions of conforming.
Plus what kind of single man drives a minivan ?
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@cartoon4umaniacs (1648)
• United States
17 Dec 07
I have to agree with my fellow mylotters here, you made the good choice to not get involved in this guys religion. I would be very afraid...maybe because I am here in the US and it is not safe at all the hitch hike hey it's not even safe to be home sometimes...If you read my post about a stranger ringing my door bell to use a phone...come on everyone has a cell now and the public phone is in the club house and if he can not get into the club house he didn't belong in this neighborhood in the first place....be careful better safe than sorry....
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@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
16 Dec 07
If your husband still wants to go, you should all find an alternate mode of transportation. However, if he knows your name and your phone number, he also now can find out where you live can't he? If you are in the phone directory, all he has to do is look you up in it.
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
16 Dec 07
When i signd up for my phone they asked me if i wanted my address in the phonebook and i said no just my city, or town. so the directory just says i live in alliston, it doesn't say where. thank god :) like i said i am one for taking percautions :)
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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17 Dec 07
I wouldn't know what to make it.
Sometimes religious people are freaky becaue some overpower you with there faith, I just don't know what to say. I know I would go because I have no need or believes in this sort of thing and I lack the interested needed not to fall asleep. (which would be rude)
~Joey
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
hah that's cute joey. I lack the ability to be rude to people who are just trying how they know best to help me. Even if i dont want the help. I mean there comes a point when you NEED to be rude or you know they just wont stop. But When and where is the line!?
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@vicky_lane4987 (980)
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17 Dec 07
personally i wouldnt have gone. i wouldnt have got into the car / minivan with a stranger. i understand why you didnt want to go out with him knowing that you would be going home with a baby and on your own. no woman would want to be in the house alone with a baby.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
I would have done just what you did. I mean, its a different world right now and it would be foolish to trust someone that easily. its better to be cautious at all times. even if that man is religious just like what he says, we don't know if its really true right? because we don't know him personally and talking with him while hitch hiking doesn't really give reliable information about him.
just him being persistent on inviting you to their service is kinda suspicious and one would really think that something is not right. I mean, he's probably concerned that you're lacking the spiritual guidance but that doesn't mean he can force you to attend their service right??
so for me, you did just the right thing. ^__^ better to be safe than sorry.
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@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
16 Dec 07
I wouldn't go. Those "free lunches" sound familiar to me. We had that kind of offer in the building where I used to work. They were born-again Christians inviting us to join them in their prayer sessions. Although they are good people, I thought "no thanks, I'll stay Catholic." They have their style of worship, and I have my own style.
Don't worry about the midnight stalking thing. I don't think that's the case here. It's just another religious fanatic trying to impose his style of worship on you.
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Yes i have delt with those born again types before. They really believe in what they believe in dont they! and they wont stop untill you believe in what they believe in as well! Almost like they are brain washed and taught how to try to brain wash other people!
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@garnet80 (349)
• Australia
17 Dec 07
I would have done the same thing. Trust your instincts. If something ever feels wrong don't do it at least you will feel safer. And you do have your family to consider. He might be a nice person but then again he might be trying to get more people into his church.
@wahptb (188)
• Canada
16 Dec 07
I think declining the invitation was the best option. It doesn't matter who the person is you don't know them. These days I don't trust what any stranger says. You just can't be sure. I think you did the right thing. Anyways if he has your phone number then he can easily find where you live. Just don't let him in the house! If he does show up you ask him politely to leave you alone and if that doesn't work you call the police. I am not a negative person or anything but I have learned that some of the nicest appearing people in the world can be the worst. Happy Holidays and stay safe.
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
16 Dec 07
When i signd up for my phone they asked me if i wanted my address in the phonebook and i said no just my city, or town. so the directory just says i live in alliston, it doesn't say where. thank god:) like i said i am one for taking percautions:)
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@keepermykitty (2573)
• Canada
22 Jan 08
For one why did hubby give your number to a compltet stranger , or tell him where you lived ???
I definatly would have not went , although he may have seemed nice , but those ate the ones you watsh out for .
The ones you don`t know , I think you did the right thing , did you tell hubby not to give your number out to people who pick him up especiall on the first drive , only after he knew that person for awhile then maybe ....
Better safe than sorry ...
You were smart on that one , m GOOD FOR YOU ...
@breadthless (124)
• United States
16 Dec 07
I definitely think you made the right choice!! Safety comes before any of the things he was offering you.
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