Trouble Making Decisions?

I have always had problems making decisions but not any more. Sometimes, our instinct is involved and does not allow us to reach a final decision because it is not based on reasoning but after such a long time unable to reach decisions properly, I decided that we have to trust our instincts and if not sure about that we can raise the question directly. Keep confident, you might have some reasons that you don't want to divulge. Hidden reasons may be interfering and I think that here is the cause of this problem. I faced a similar situation lately and refused to communicate with certain people. I was right and even though I had to explain myself, I just maintained my position and didn't allow anyone to mingle with. Best Regards and Happy Holidays, Esther

one thing that causes trouble when making a decision : we want to please all the people. kykidd, we cannot please all the people. we do have our own life. don't ignore our need and our want. Just do our heart wants to do.

yeah i have heared that too (when in doubt sort of thing...) nope havent experience that yet ..having trouble making decisions since im used of conferring it first to my husband his opinion before i do something big...minor ones (problems) i can handle..but it terms of financial matters i need to consult it first...

It sounds like you might be tired or stressed that is why it is challenging for you to make decisions. Some people get more indecisive as they get older. They already have much experience with life and think if they choose option A this will happen or if they choose option B that will happen. A person like that needs to slow down and feel more relaxed before making many more decisions. I am sorry that you feel that you are falling apart. I think this feeling will just be temporary. Many people that I know feel stressed at the moment. For some of them the reason is the cold weather and for others of them it is Christmas. That is a busy time of the year and they have done too much rushing around. I hope that things improve with your decision making soon. Good luck.

I find that when I'm stressing about something, I fall into the same pattern of not being able make decisions. When I'm stressing about money and my friends include me in their plans to go out "on the town", I really have a problem saying yes. I want to, but I think maybe I shouldn't because the money I'd spend going out could be put to better use. Sometimes I drag out the decision for a couple of days and it's usually my hubby that makes my decision for me. He tells me to go out and enjoy myself. Quite a few of my friends are in bad financial shape and they go out often. They spend stupidly, almost like they have an aversion to money (and I guess they do) and when I go out with them, I have fun, but by the end of the night I feel sorry for my friends because I know they're going to be upset with themselves for a few days, as they spent a couple hundred dollars they don't have. My very unprofessional opinion is you are stressing over something, the holidays perhaps? Once you realize what is affecting you, you usually see things a bit clearer and it becomes easier to make a decision. My husband is very good at reading me and it helps to have someone to talk with (at least in my case) Talk with someone close to you, a sister or brother, your best friend, whoever you're close enough with to trust and let tem know what's going on. They may help you to see things clearer and you'll feel better about making decisions again.

I don't think you have a problem, I just think that you are getting more in touch with how you feel about things. Saying no to something can sometimes be a new experience for people. As you get older, you will find that more and more you ponder things before just jumping right into them. I find that i am doing the same thing myself theses days. At first i felt so strange taking my time to really decide what it is that i want to do, but once you get used to it your decision making will go quicker. You begin to go with your true feelings, not simply saying yes to make others happy.