Popularity...and the Internet

I don't notice it here so much because I thought there were lots of little popular sub groups here and even if I (or another user) wasn't popular within one sub group there would alays be another one that they could try. I did notice it very much in the last forum I tried though. All I could figure was that I was a little bit of a late comer to the group but I definitely wasn't at all popular there, even within my little sub group. I definitely tugged at my heart a little and even now I kind of wonder why I wasn't really accepted.

To be honest it doesn't really affect me. Even when I was younger and in school I wasn't too much worried about popularity. I was popular in some circles, not popular in others, but it was something I didn't worry about. I know that my daughter is quite different from what I was. Being popular is important for her - although it used to be much more a few years back, now she's becoming more self confident and popularity although still important is not her main concern. I think the need for popularity depends a lot on the level of maturity and self confidence and often it takes a while until it becomes less important.

I am sometimes get very much concern about this perticular thing that am I popular over internet or not. This question arises in my mind because I spend around 12-14 hours daily over internet. Spending that time over internet means I am spending half of my day over internet and sometimes I found that many people over internet know me. Sometimes I try to make myself popular by linking more and more people to my website. Sometimes I feel so lonely that nobody knows me. Well, internet is very vast. Millions of people are accessing internet daily. You can be famous in a perticular platform but it is very hard to be popular in each and every field. People have different types of intrests and it is not necessary that you have intrest in all the things. For example, I am very keen in chatting on Yahoo Messenger and I have more than 300 people in my contact list and I feel that I am very popular on yahoo messenger but there are people who are more intrested in using MSN Messenger and I am inactive on MSN messenger so I am not famous there. So we can't be that much famous on the internet becuase of very lasge scale and very large of intrests of the people too.

i do not feel i am very much popular in internet. i do not think that much about it. I am not taht much popular in my real life. so why to bother about popularity in internet.

I was a member of a forum for this video game that I'm obsessed with (don't even bother calling me a nerd :P) awhile back. Everything was fine until one discussion got started and me and this other chick butted heads on something. Well, not really even butting heads, just a difference of opinions was all and she was all mad about me having a different opinion and apparently my own mind. She started talking trsh every chance she got and I got tired of it and called her out. The head of the forum contacted me and told me that I needed to watch what I say. I didn't even say anything rude is the thing. I just simply pointed out that she was being childish, ya know? Nothing rude was said. I got up out of there. That was my first real taste of popularity and catty chicks in cyber space. I deal with people like that on a daily basis, like I need it on my internet time too. People are so lame sometimes. It doesn't bother me necessarily, I just can't get over how petty people are, espeically to people they don't even know. You would think that there wouldn't be things as trivial as popularity on the internet, considering how vast it is, but people find a way to suck up everything.

I understand what you mean.. and great post.. you know, sometimes I do feel invisible while online.. but that just goes to show I'm not putting enough time and work into what I'm doing. If I want to network and make some more friends, I need to get out there and promote myself, be friendly and just relate to people =) It's not hard at all and it gets kind of fun once you understand it. Most of the time I always have someone to talk to because I'm just taking the time to listen to them, relate to them and help =) -Claidissa

I am not sure what you mean by popular... If you mean popular among my friends, yes I am. I have a nice friend circle on the internet and I reckon I am popular among them... I am no celebrity and don't have any wish to be as popular as a celebrity and face the consequences

I totally get what you mean. I do feel the popularity and like you I was never a very popular person. Well I was a bit by association (cheerleading) but that was the extent of it. Funny though a lot of times I feel more popular on here than in 'real life'. Then there are times when I feel completely isolated...like in real life LOL. Though I try not to let it bother me...we are human...and it's like a natural instinct or something to want to be accepted and liked. With me - I've come to realize that I don't care what people think of the movies I like, the books I read, the clothes I wear, ect - but I do care that people like me as a person - you know think I'm a good, kind person. I guess because that's what I put out there - does that make sense?

I actually enjoy the internet more b/c of my status in normal life was not unpopular but not popular either. Although I've made many acquaintances as I've grown, I've made more friends online than offline that I actually talk to day to day. But I do understand what you are saying. I've been to some websites where people had a lot of cliques and inside jokes and no matter how hard I tried, I didn't seem to "fit in". So overtime, I moved on from those sites and seeked out websites where people actually listen to me :) This is one of them!

Hi, May be the topics if not got appropriate responds I do not feel unpopular but I do feel as if something might had missed. It is like getting audience in hands as if a Television show like in AXN 30 seconds for fame.

I guess I never really thought much about it until now. I am not one that makes friends or even looks to make new friends very often. I have my friends from when I was 10 years old still. I try and try, and it may not be fair but usually the "new people" just don't measure up. New friendships take so much more work and expectations. I am perfectly content with my old friends. I do have a few "new" friends that have broken through my invisible walls though. Trust is a hard thing for me. I am content being unpopular online because I know who my friends are and they make me happy. Some people can forge close relationships online, I just don't think I am one of those people.

Well, I can tell you that not being popular on the internet is not my worry either. I am who I am. People like or they don't; I don't care. I've seen plenty of people on-line or off, that would bend over backwards to be popular. People take advantage of those people. Maybe that is why people don't like me...now I'm depressed :-)