When you marry should you live in the same state as your mother-in-law?

Your husband called you a manipulative "B"--!? Oh, my! Yes, both husband and wife need to check out the family before getting married, but the most important thing to check out is not so much what kind of a mother the person has, but how close the person is to the mother (or father). Even if I had a mother-in-law who was a perfect angel, I wouldn't want to live near her. Whenever some guy wanted to marry me, the first question I always asked was "Are you willing to move FAR away from your family and just be with me?" And then I'd wait until he did it, before I'd bite. The one I married was just as eager to get away from his mother as I was. After he got settled in, he wrote me and asked, "Is 2,000 miles far enough?" YEP!

Moving far away from the in laws, but of course LOL No, really living close together works for some people, not all in laws are the same. Unfortunately mine .. well, yes moving really far away sounds good to me:) Are in laws something people - both wife and husband - should consider before marrying? Well, when we're getting married we don't think so. Even if someone tells us it's important we don't believe most of the times. We only start thinking about it before. In any case, there is a saying back home, probably all over the world , something about when getting married it is important to have our own separate house/ apartment/ whatever just as long as we're not sharing with in laws. That is so true :) Ok , yes, it does work for some people. But for the ones that don't work it's really not a good thing:)

This answer will be different for everyone. My outlook on this has changed from now and the time I first got married. My mother in law and I didn't used to get along either. Well, it wasn't that we didn't get along, we just didn't have anything to do with one another at all. She didn't like the fact that her son was with me, and didn't want to give me a chance. He was married before and in her eyes, his ex was her daughter. Now that she has decided to get to know me in the past couple of years, our relationship is great. I have decided to move on and forgive her for hating me for no reason. I wouldn't mind living near her now and I think she would be a great help if she were close. I once thought the same way you do though. I am glad I was given the chance to have my perspective changed.

Ha! God's willing, If I get married, I will move far far away from my mother-in law, whether we get along of not, I don't want to be living too close to her. My boyfriend doesn't want to be near my parents, we want to be on our own not needing money from anyone. I'd rather be away from everyone, have my own life, know what I mean? My boyfriend's mom is also a manipulative bi*ch and I'm sick of her, so there's no way I'm going to live near her. She's the most two-faced person I've ever met in my life.

I can't help too much now because i have wonderful in-laws but it wasn't always this way i have twins from a previous friend and my hubby and i have one daughter together and at first it was hell they showed preference over the kids and i love them all the same so does my hubby but they didn't i wish we would have moved then but now it has gotten better and we even work together sometimes so GOOD LUCK and I'll pray for you and them

i think this issue must discussion with your partner before married.This is very important because very long time want life with my partner.If the issue occur you not comfortable and your life very bored and your soul not peace.If i have your shoes i can't married with my partner because he still make decision still stay with his mother.

Depend on the family. Something tjhat shoudl be considered is if you want to ever move away from either family or if you both are okay with relocating for any reason (regardless fo how your inlaws act)

No I dont think you should live in the same state as your mother-in-law. In my case she lives in the same city as my wife and I and we are constantly doing things with her. Now I dont mind it once in awhile but we do it all the time. Now my mother-in-law lives with us and it is really bad between my wife and I because if I say something bad about my wifes mother or say I dont like how she is doing something she of course sides with her mom. It been bad on our marriage.

Whoa i thought i really disliked my mother in law but you really hate yours. And of course your husband will say thats the reason you hate her. Its his mother - what else is he going to say? I know sometimes i wanna tell her its none of her business. I dont think its something a wife should HAVE to consider. But some mother in laws make it extremely difficult. You just have to make sure she doesnt get in your business.

I would take the hurricanes as well. Yes, you should consider almost everything before getting married. If something seems sketchy it is probably better to just stay bf/gf until you are %100 sure it will work out with him and any evil relatives he may have. Then again if he is right and you are like the wicked witch it sounds like poetic justice. Have a nice life and if that is not possible get divorced and then try to have a nice life while staying single.