How hard is it these days to make new friends.???
By yefta_aye
@yefta_aye (637)
Indonesia
December 18, 2007 12:14am CST
Just a question to ponder... how hard is it in this day and age to get close to people and become life long friends?How much have things changed?or have they really changed much atall..Im not sure.Take my girlfriend and I for example, we both moved away from the area's we grew up in,we have both come out of previous relationships where we had mutual friends and now see none of them,We have moved around a little over last few years and we both work in an environment where it is essential to keep friendships at just a hello goodbye basis.So where does this leave us for great social times with good trustworthy friends?? What is your opinion on friendships and the true value of having one? Is it just something often spoken of but rarely seen today?
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8 responses
@yanxchick (250)
• United States
18 Dec 07
The older you get, the harder it is to make friends. I moved about two hours away from all my friends and familiy about three years ago and I could honestly say that I have one friend that I have made here.
It's difficult because people already have their circle of friends. Not many people are interested in welcoming in new people to their lives on a friend basis. Sure, acquaintinces are nice, but friends are totally different.
@keminem001 (779)
• Saint Lucia
18 Dec 07
things havn't changed so much yet but eventually it will. before i could walk up to someone on the street and have a descent conversation with them but now i'm having problems just saying 'hi' to someone. they look at me like i'm some kind of pervert or a stalker. that's why i always keep it touch with my childhood friends no matter what part of the world i am from. i always call them and they call me we talk to each other. they really understand me and know what i'm going through if there is a problem.
sometimes i wish that we could have a reunion, all my friends and classmates could just come together let's talk about life and our plans for the future.
@bishu_sinha (1457)
• India
18 Dec 07
Agreed with you.
It is very tough to find a good real friend, but same time we can found a good friend also.
A friendship built-up sacrificing somthing by both and responcibility also claimed by both to alive the frindship.
Cheer up and make a lot of friend and definately you will be able to find your desired friend.
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
18 Dec 07
Hmm.. I think it's easy to make friends but it's difficult to make good friends whom you can confide in and trust. All my good friends are from my schooling days. After I start working, I have made many friends but none of whom I can confide in. I can only trust my schooling good friends. =D
Good Friends help each other without expecting anything in return. Good friends stick by each other no matter what happens. =D
@dhamrait (71)
• India
18 Dec 07
Man you have to create the time. Everyone's in a hurry and prefer to communicate in a shortcut way like emails, sms etc. True friendship may take time to mature and blossom. Physical presence is preferable with constant touch. To nurture, more constant touch is needed.
@ernie_chantique (189)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 07
I think we all have 1 2 or 3 real friends who are always there if we need and vice versa.people outside that are acquaintances .
@Estina54 (385)
• United States
18 Dec 07
The truth is that people have changed, there are not many lifetime friendships any more. Friendships start usually at work and "friends" don't keep in touch any more after they change the work place.
