Do you check your friends list often?...Do you delete friends that are inactive?
By rx4life
@rx4life (1930)
United States
December 18, 2007 2:15am CST
Tonight I was thinking of some of the great discussions I have had on myLot..and wondering where those friends were these days. I began checking into their profiles and found that several have not even logged in for over 4 months!!! Some of them are people I would love to hear from...but probably won't...and my decision is needing to be made as to delete them or not...How do you handle it? Do you delete if they are inactive for a given amount of time? How long? Does it make you feel bad to delete them..What if they come back...I was away for a few months...I lost lots of friends during that time...How do you handle it? Would you go through and clean out all the inactive people?
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8 responses
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
18 Dec 07
Hi Rx4life, I used to but then I deleted someone and they were back the next day. I felt pretty stupid at that point. I havent been very active myself for quite a while and I wouldnt be surised to find out that a few have deleted me. I really havent worried about whos on my friends list in a long time. They really arent hurting anything being there and you never know when/if they will ever come back. Just my two cents anyways.
Terry
@rx4life (1930)
• United States
18 Dec 07
Oh what to do...:)...They really aren't hurting anything..but some of them are almost a year without posting...that seems "gone" to me!!! I haven't worried about this before..don't know why I am worrying about it now!!! By the way..good to see you're back!!! Hope all is well!!! Linda
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@msivaprakash (35)
• India
18 Dec 07
no usually i add the person to who's discussion that i respond to or who responded my discussions. as i am new comer i don't delete any as of now
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
19 Dec 07
I have been thinking the same thing lately. I see that the first page at least of my friends have not been around for a while. I don't want to delete them because if they come back then I'd like to be able to chat with them. I was actually MIA for a couple months a while back and am glad none of them deleted me! I would like to clean it up a bit though. It's a tough decision...
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@rx4life (1930)
• United States
19 Dec 07
It is tough..I've decided to leave the great posters in their places...and hope they come back someday...in the meantime..I'll follow a little more closely who actually seems interested in my posts and when they don't respond for a few months...I'll clean it up then :)
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Sounds like a good plan, I'll probably do the same thing.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
19 Dec 07
Hi rx! I check my friends list from time to time, but I feel bad about deleting anyone. However, I think if they haven't logged in for 6 or more months, and given no reason for not being here, then I would possibly delete them, depending on how active they have been in the past. Like someone said though, they are doing no harm just sitting there!
When you were away for a few months you told us beforehand why you wouldn't be here, so it's a shame that some of your friends deleted you; it's their loss, because they are now missing out on your excellent posts!
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@rx4life (1930)
• United States
19 Dec 07
I've thought it all over and with the great help of myLotter's I am just going to leave them and await their return...I did go in and delete a couple that had never responded to any posts and havent' been logged on for over 9 months...but the ones that have had great past posts I just can't bring myself to delete...many of them I really miss and do hope that like me, they return someday and give me a shoutout!!! Hope this finds you ready for the holidays...I am in a panic...not ready...but I'm a pretty good last minute "sprinter"...LOL...
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@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
19 Dec 07
I never go through my friends lists to see who is active and who is not. Even if someone is inactive and I delete them, what purpose does it serve? Nothing really changes but a number. I just leave it alone. The only reason I would delete a friend is if they were really offensive or continuously sent me spam.
@rx4life (1930)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Good point..One of the reasons I embarked on this discussion was because a couple of friends were really only sending me their referral lists to join other sites...and that made me start thinking about all the inactives..but I'll just deal with them as totally separate issues!!! Thanks for the info!!
@lyn2008 (442)
• China
18 Dec 07
Well,I am newly come.I think I will have same problems just as you in the future.I just think if my fiends are not very many,I won't delete friends.If there are too many friends,it is really a problem,I think if he really leave mylot,I mean if he haven't been in mylot for several months,I will delete he,don't you agree?
@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
19 Dec 07
I dont delete friends and I dont have time checking them out. I have not thought about this until I read this post of yours. Its ok with me actually, these inactive memebers who are my friends here on mylot are maybe busy and I will just leave them there I know they will not harm me anyway.
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@youless (112561)
• Guangzhou, China
19 Dec 07
I don't often check my friends' list. I just make sure if anyone who wants to add me as his/her new friend, I will accept it immediately. I won't delete anybody from my list although they are not active at all. Perhaps one day they will show up. It is no need for me to delete them from the list.
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