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There's alot of people out there that are exactly like you. Sorry you got to find one who wasn't. I think that as he goes on in life he'll come around and realize that he'll need to put others before himself. I'm sorry that you were attacked by him.

Dear friend, I don't know how to say this without running the risk of offending you so I will start off saying...please just listen, take a step back and look at the whole picture here. 1) Your soon to be ex doesn't understand you and doesn't even want to try. Maybe a long time ago but it's too late to expect him to start now. 2) Why are you blindsided to see him with someone? He's been cheating on you for years, you threw him out, you know he has no idea who you are ....but do you really know him? He's been cheating on you and you didn't know. Do yopu honestly think he's capable of being unselfish and thoughtful and considerate NOW??? It's quite obvious that he is not the person you thought he was for a long time. If you want to figure him out and expect him to try and figure you out you have to start all over. IMO it's too late for that. I know this is hard for you sweetheart because you lived a life that was false for so long and it was the only life you knew. You now have to face reality. Start over by imagining youself shoving him out the door and slamming it shut behind him. You dust off your hans saying "good riddance to bad rubbish...then you grin. You have a fresh start. You have freedom...you can put yourself first and not worry about anyone else. Think of all that you have...not what you don't have. Think of all the reasons for you to be happy. There is NEVER any reason to be unhappy. We just need to turn things around till we find something to be glad about...(I'm a firm believer in the Pollyanna theory). You know I care about you, blessed be. xx

I know exactly where you are coming from with this sweetheart , People like you and me do these things because we feel it in our hearts , to be kind to someone or help someone is inside , we don't do it because we are asked or expected to , someone like your ex to be doesn't understand this , I don't think he will ever do these things because he wants to , he has proven he is selfish and thoughtless and all for himself , please don't let him change you from the sweet loving person you are xxx

I would just ignore him Sweetie as he probably took it as a Personal attack because he knows what a horrible Creature he is And no he will never understand or see who you are Just like my Ex Husband he thinks you are in the wrong and tries to make you feel that it was your Fault I actually for a long time did doubt myself, and actually believed that it was my Fault that he was out spending Money all the time we did not have, that he was having affairs, that he had to be cruel to me, Mentally and verbally abuse me as I was nobody as he wants told me I was nothing special I am still no one special but I also know it was not my Fault So you are the good Person not him and he could never be as lovely and good Hearted as you Love you xxxxx

Hey R, First off, I wanted to say that I'm sorry that you're still going through this. This is why I avoid relationships, because they hurt in the end. I just wish there was some way I could make you happy again. A did tell me about the conversation and I was disappointed. I wanted to talk to you as well, see if you were ok and hearing your beautiful voice makes my day. The Wiiguy.

a partner is suposed to understand us. i have an expectation in the relationshp i am in. these expectations provide me a clear idea and picture of whom id like to be with.however, i am at times attracted to someone who does not fulfill my expectations. and in my effort to make her be like my expectations, i get frustrated in the process because she is not like that. i know what you mean and i wholly understand you.

There is problem when someone really doesnt know our feelings !its better to ignore someone who is not ready to understand !dnt make someone yours who doesnt understand !else it hurts more someone close to us does something wrong infront of us !argument is the route of fighting!!

Mom he could never be a wonderful, big hearted and loving person the way you are - simply because it does not come naturally to him! I think you have reacted to all this with the utmost dignity and self respect and I sure wish he could realise the hurt he inflicted on you - I hope you are feeling better now! xxx