Follow-Up - Advice?
By crazyredhead
@crazyredhead (954)
United States
December 18, 2007 10:51pm CST
Ok, so nobody read my discussion on my eventful night anyways, but hey, in case anyone does...I am almost 99% certain that my friend John who was there that night will be my new boyfriend. Yay me, right? Well, I don't know.
One of my friends claims that he is not over his ex-girlfriend yet. Another says that he has had too many relationships and I shouldn't add to his pile. Another tells met that he is just too much trouble for what he's worth (he has gotten into some bad things but is in recovery). Now, I really really like this guy, a lot. I don't know what to do. So many people are telling me know but my heart is telling me yes. I have known him for a VERY long time and liked him for almost that entire time. It was a complete shock to me when he decided to inform me that he liked me too during that time. A good shock. I don't know, any suggestions?
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5 responses
@makamania20 (274)
• India
19 Dec 07
There are only few people who is thoroughly bad but some people are bad externally may be because his environment and if we close to him he may be pretty good man in real sense !!time and action factors sometimes make a man very bad!!!who knows he bad because he is always open and every one catches him when he does little naughty !!may he is really good man inside!! you should know him since you knew him for a long !! what i suggest is that ,its not bad to listen what your heart says,dear judge yourself .But dnt try to jump in fireball by listening your crazy heart !!hope you will try to get my point!!:)good luck!
@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
19 Dec 07
I definitely get what you mean. I'll go slow but I'm definitely gonna go for it.
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
19 Dec 07
Well sometimes liking someone can make you blind,but on the other side if your heart says yes and not your mind than why not?Just give it a try and if it not works out than there are plenty of other guys in the world.Theres not a hand full of guys but a land full of guys.
So just go for it girl.
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@simplyman2006 (1706)
• India
22 Dec 07
hey crazy well, i would like to give a simple advise about it that if all are saying that he is not good then u should first try to known him very well and then u should take the decision. it will surely help u.
TAke care.
Good luck
@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
19 Dec 07
I'd still give it time. Before you jump into an actual relationship with him (ie. becoming his girlfriend), why not try dating him for a little bit?
You don't want to become the rebound girlfriend. Trust me, I've been there a few times and NO good can come from it. You'll come out with mangled self esteem even though the other party 'never meant to hurt you'.
Keep a little bit of distance between yourself and him, but go out with him on occasion. Check out a movie. Go for dinner. Go check out the Christmas lights. It doesn't mean you're a 'couple', but you are testing the waters and it might help speed up his recovery time, too, once he realizes he was happy before 'the ex' and he can be happy afterwards, too.
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@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
19 Dec 07
That's pretty much what I was thinking. Thanks for reinforcing my thoughts, it helps a lot to know I was on the right track. The thing about my friend telling me he isn't over his ex, I'm not quite over mine either, but I know it is over. If you get what I mean? I'm ready to move on but I still love him deeply. I really really like John and I want things to work out. If you'd like to hear about my eventful night I'll link it but in short, I went to a movie with John on Saturday and it was a blast. I'm liking the idea of dating before a full-on relationship.
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1356438.aspx
@anomunous2008 (8)
• United States
14 Mar 09
How did it go? im just curious, cause i am in the same boat as you and i realize that there are so many variables that it cant be reliable, but im just curious.
@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
16 Mar 09
if you'd really like to know. i never dated him. i realized how much he thought of me as a booty call more than a friend, someone to date, or a girlfriend. now he is engaged to his ex and living in a town pretty far away from me. my advice - take any friends advice seriously and move cautiously but don't be afraid to take risks and listen to your heart.
