Trust....

No doubt, this is a sticky situation. How trustworthy can your husband be, for one, if he comes on to your best friend? But if nothing happened, this time, I think all should be forgiven, but not forgotten. I would find it hard to let them be in the same room together. Did she talk to her hubby about this? Find out the underlying reason why he thought he would come onto someone else? Are they happy together...whatever, I'm not going to get to personal...I don't know any of you, but seems there is a lack of communication somewhere. I don't know, I think if my fiance came onto my best-friend I would want her to tell me. So, I would be upset if she didn't. You know, I have a right to know what is going on in my marriage. I would have to bring it up to him so that we could talk about it. There is always going to be someone else you are attracted to...it is inevitable, there are a lot of beautiful people in the world ( I myself am coming to terms with this), but it doesn't mean you need to act on those attractions. I had a boyfriend of 3 years that approached my best friend with a certian something he wanted to do, it wasn't what I or my best friend was even interested in, she told me, i brought it up with him, found out it was the truth...I was pissed at him, not at her. See what I mean. But she told me. I still trusted him, but it was hard to 100% trust him after that, I was just more on guard than I was before. Anyway, that isn't the question. I would think that she could still trust her husband, but just consider this a reason to keep one eye open. If she gets to out of hand with it and her hubby isn't doing anything unfaithful, that could screw things up too.

Well, in my opinion the friend should have told the husband off. I wouldn't worry so much though that she didn't tell her friend. That wouldn't be an easy thing to tell a friend. I would give my husband the boot for something like that. If he's willing to go after my best friend, then he'll probably try to cheat again. If my best friend wasn't asking for it then I'd probably forgive her. I wouldn't feel comfortable with them together though.

There are several things going on here. The husband needs to know that what he did was morally wrong. He should seek out counseling immediately. It is also possible that what he did is legally wrong and could put him in jail or on probation. The charges can range from "indecent proposal by email" to "improper use of an electronic device". As for dealing with the best friend, was she the victim? or did she encourage this situation? She may not have said anything because she did not know what to say.

Hi,there! The situation is somehow a little bit complex.Well,I think your friend should talk to her husband first.Since he was the one who wrote the email and wanted to be intimate with the girl,so it's better to talk with him first.If he's honest and tell about everything,then they can see what they should do to deal with it.Are there any problems or is it just an implusive feeling? If your friend's best friend didn't do anything inappropriate,then I think your friend could trust her.Anyway,best regards for your friend and have a good day today!

The 'best friend' should have said something to him or she should have told his wife, they are ment to be best friend. I would like my best friend to tell me if my husband sent her an email like that.She would have been none the wiser had she not found the email herself. I would have problem trusting either of them. she should be upset with both of them not just her husband, even though nothing happened.

its fooolishnesh !. cat and milk should not be at the same place. same like husband and wifes friend who is girl should not be close.if its . something bad will happen!

I think the friend probably should have told right away. this guy is a real jerk and the wife really deserved to know that. I probably would be upset with my friend if she held that back because I might think maybe there is a reason she is hiding that.. but I sure wouldn't be as upset with her as with my husband. If it were me I would want to know her reasons for holding that back really, then I could make the decisions I needed to make easier. if this husband approached the friend once, it's probably not the first time he has approached someone..

Wow, life may never be the same for her again. This is like half a cheating, an attempted cheat. I guess it's still forgivable since nothing really happened, but if he does it again then she should definitely leave that cheating pig.

well evey situation is diffenent i guess she has to ask herself how much does she really trust this girlfriend and is it a risk to the current relationship not only as friends but where her husbands concern. my x boyfriend is best friends with my husband for years and my x's wife is my best friend.it didnt happen overnight it took alot of trust and it is quite unuasual for this situation but it worked for us.my x still has a crush on me and flirts with me all the time but i dont feel the same for him hes like a brother to me.his wife and my husband tolerate it and they know i have my limits to what i will tolerate. i do however remind my ex on a regualr basis i am happily married. i tell him jokingly he had his chance he blew it that usually shuts him up for a while.

Wow that's crappy. But if I was your friend I would talk to the best friend and be like why didn't you come to me with this? I bet she'll come back with I didn't want to upset you and I thought that if I didn't respond or make any indication in that direction then your husband wouldn't take it any farther. In that case you could forgive her for not telling. But as far as trusting um no. Lol Obiviously the husband can't be trusted and the best friend didn't say anything so we shouldn't trust them as far as you could throw em.