My First Unmerry Xmas....
By calicot
@calicot (256)
Philippines
December 19, 2007 11:42am CST
What would you do to cope?
Just talked with my partner a while ago today and got to know that she was unable to file for a vacation leave from her work overses and so she will be unable to come home this christmas. This will be my/ our first christmas not being together of 9 years. It's so sad and I'm feeling depressed about my situation and her's too. I know I have my parents, in-laws, siblings to be with but it's not the same thing I think. Hope you'll enjoy this season. As for me I guess I'll contemplate and maybe rediscover xmas spirit.
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@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
20 Dec 07
Mabey you guys could do like alittle online confrence:) that is better then nothing u know:P make it romatnic gedt a little traa and decorate it that way the othewr person can see it when u are on webcam with them and wrap a gift and open it for her on cam just save it for when she .he comes home...you can still make it special and still see each other on christmas:)
@calicot (256)
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
Maybe that would work. But whenever we get the chance to talk on cam and in conference, yes we feel glad to see each other. We talk often through our cellular and landline, but you know, it's still not the same. Usually when we have a discussion on something that's bothering either of us, after resolving the problem we give each other a nice big hug. And that's what I miss most. Ok we talk through the net and on cam but then whenever we need to logout because both of us need to resume work,loggingout seem difficult. The longing to be with each other sets in again and more. Maybe I'll do all your suggestions, but aftewre that I guess I'll sleep Christmas over because really it's 4 days from now and the more the day comes the more sadden I become. And today 21th here is our monthsary. Forgive me if I'm being hopelessly romantic like skinnychick, you'd know it's natural to be so. Well I guess as the saying goes "better to have loved than not loved at all". And whenever I'm looking back, remembering all the wonderful and happy things we enjoyed together in a way cheers me up a bit.
OT: I get depression level 2. Does that mean the higher I get the more a depressing person I am?
Anyway, thanks for your suggestions mikeswifey. Wishing you a very Merry Christmas with your family and friends. Stay in touch.
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
19 Dec 07
This time of year a lot of people do get depressed however it is also a time of year to think of all of the things that you do have, and those that are near that you can physically reach out to during the holidays. Yes relationships and significant others are important, of course, but there will be other holidays, more Christmas', and you'll settle into accepting that soon enough. Besides nothing happens in Gods world by mistake so maybe you are intended to go to her this Christmas if it is really that important to you otherwise like I said, cherish those that you do have near and try to feel gratitude for what is there rather than the absence of someone who is not.
@calicot (256)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Yeah you're probably right. She also is feeling depressed because of our situation, Maybe because we were together for a long time, it's also hard and scary to be away with someone dear. We did talked about these things will happen before she accepted her job. To be positive about these I said to her to consider it's a training for both of us. Maybe I too will work elsewhere across the world much farther than where she is right now. I dunno, now I'm having of a bit of regret having said those words. Forgive me, it's just Filipino nature to be a close knit family, sometimes to the point that personal achievements will be sacrificed just not to see a love one be apart. But I'll have to accept it right now whether I like it or not. Anyway, thanks for dropping by and giving your opinion about this. I appreciate it svery much. Merry Christmas to you and your family.
@julianarw (1521)
• Netherlands
19 Dec 07
I am sorry to hear that your wife can not go home for this Christmas. But i hope you still can enjoy your Christmas with your other family. Do you have children also? Enjoy and Merry Christmas
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@calicot (256)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Thanks for your concern. No, we have no children, we tried so many times but maybe its not yet the "right time" for us to have. The closest I can say as sort of "adopted" are my nephews and nieces and my god children. I'll try to enjoy christmas, maybe if I think back before we ever met, I was also alone those times but I still managed to enjoy this season. Merry Christmas to you too. thanks again.