Do happy people depress you more?

Thanks again sigma77!!!

Thank you for posting, and no, your comments didn't annoy me. It was nice to hear from the other side too, to help get a perspective on things - so, thanks again for sharing!

Well littlefranciscan, it looks as thought you hit the nail on the head, so to speak. That's exactly what I'm talking about. It's a jealousy thing when you're depressed, "Why can't I be more like (name)?"

simplegurl1969 - thank you for posting. It seems to me that we both have similar thoughts on this matter. It's like when people tell you to "snap out of it", "it will get better" and all of those clique'd (sp?) sayings. You're like, "Well, look how happy you are? You've probably never been depressed in your life, so what that heck makes you the authority on anything?"....... Thanks a lot for you post, as I found it very interesting to read!!!

For me, it's not really that they seem so happy that gets me sad and down, it's the fact that usually these people just seem to be better then I am, in many ways. They seem almost flawless, as if they can Never do any wrong to anyone or to anything. Usually their very beautiful, good looking people, who know how to deal with people and just seem to naturally know what they want and are Not afraid to go after what they want. And usually these same people are thin, petite, and seem to be emotionally stable. And it's all this that seems to depress me all the more, so I think for someone like myself who is not very physically attractive, let alone thin or petite, who also gets a bit too emotional at times, I've learn that brehaps it's just best to stay with other average, obese people much like myself. What say you??

Thanks for seeing my side of things RosieS57 and for sharing it with all of us. That's the word I was looking for - perky!!!

I'm with you on that one Live2Learn!!! My hubby knows to stay away from me in the morning and to not bother me until AFTER I've had my tea!

Yeah, perkiness in the morning is really annoying to me. I am so not a morning person and don't really like to talk or be talked to let alone listen to whistling!

Yes tryxiness, I understand that I shouldn't be comparing myself to others. That's what my problem is, and I do know that. My boss even told me that once, a few months ago when I was still working. I know I shouldn't, but I do, and I just can't seem to stop. Have any thoughts on that?

How about this, try thinking of the strengths in you. Things you are fond of doing and you feel great each time you do that. It may be a first step to overcoming comparing yourself to others. :)

comparing ourselves to other, i think is something we all do from time to time and sometimes i have a problem with this myself. but you can't do it! it will only get you down b/c there are always going to be people better looking than you, better off than you, better house than you, better car than yours, whatever...you know?! I do that sometimes...my man's maxim will be laying out and a total bombshell will be plastered all over it...how depressing. I will catch myself comparing my looks to Fergies or the lead singer of the Pussycat dolls or something dumb....you can't do it! I have look in the mirror and (inside and outside) and concentrate on what I like...on what is good. You know. Depression can happen so easily and so fast, before you know it you are so far down in the dumps it is hard to get out! Just know that you have people that care!

So true, Live2Learn, so very true!!! It's weird how that all works, isn't it? It's kind of confusing too.

Maybe when I'm just "down in the dumps", and not depressed, that happy people make me happy. It's just that since I've been going through this major depression and tried to kill myself, that it's affecting me differently. Who knows, I could be way off.

I do agree with LilmissB (Ithink that is her name) a little too. I am subject to falling into depression so I have to try to find ways to keep myself from getting to far! I am a social moody person as well. I find that when my boyfriend is frustrated or mood I tend to feed off of that. But when he is happy I feed off of that as well! So, I do need to surround myself with happy, positive people. It is contagious...where the big bad negative misery loves company, I found to beat the misery, you need the bigger better positive happiness to beat it into the ground...lol...did that make any sense at all?

Well, thanks for responding huanyue06. I hope that things get better for you!