Being a Stay at home Mom can effect your Sanity?

Well then I suppose I have it pretty good. I am a stayat/workat home mommy. My husband gets home we have dinner. Then its down to my office. Don't get me wrong, not always perfect. But it is a perk. And I still have the pull my hair out days. If you would be interested there is a nice job site that I got my part time telecommute job from. www.genuinejobs.com And as a point I do get out of my house. Coffee fridays( after family pizza friday) And once a week we go to be best friends. My daughter palys with her cousins and we talk play and vent to each other.

I am a stay at home mom, but i get out of the house alot cause i babysit my friends daughter a few days a week and the two kids are only a month apart in age, so they really play well together. Although they are starting to learn they have tempers and attitude somketimes i feel like ripping my hair out too. Both my friend and i are pregnant with our second kids, And i intend to still sit for her after she is done her maturnity leave. Wish my good luck with that. They will be 3, 3, 1.5 and 1 years of age. I MAY need a wig after the first few weeks. lol.

know how you feel. being a one income family can be stressing. you feel like you're not contributing to anything. me, since i didn't really know anyone and i'm kinda shy (with no car) i've turned to the net to help me with my sanity and of course the feeling work doing a job. i've started a small little business designing sites and it keeps my mind busy on things other then my kids. i also have a lot of stress relievers. also, now that my son is in school i don't have as many kids to watch for a few hours.

i understand what you feel , but the best thing is one must fine some diversion to make us or anybody who are stay at home mom some activities which will make them busy and at the same time educational or productive..some moms i have known spend their free time in computers and if bored then do something inside the house ,like arranging furnitures, crocheting and etc..whatever respective interests have..

I feel your pain! lol. I'm a stay at home mom to our 3 kids. Our oldest is 5, she's in preschool 3 days a week. Middle one is 2-1/2 and gives all new meaning to "terrible twos" our youngest is almost 5 months old. Plus I babysit a little boy who is almost 2. I don't really have much to do to relieve the stress. I just try to get out of the house when I can. My mom keeps the kids overnight like once a month so my husband and I can go out to dinner kid free. I've pretty much just accepted the stress for now. I miss working too. Even though I worked in a daycare lol. It just didn't pay for me to work because till I paid for daycare for 3 kids I wouldn't have made any money. I do a lot on the internet to keep me sane. My new passion is yuwie. I've made lots of nice friends on there. Plus just being on there I'm earning money for my family. If you want to join me there here is the link : http://r.yuwie.com/ravinskye We could share mom stories lol.

I'm also a SAHM, and feel that I may lose my mind at times! I only have a 2-year old, and luckily, if things get rough, and she gets grumpy, I can have her chill out in her room and watch some Dora. (I know, I know, I swore there'd never be a TV in there!). I always make sure we're doing things, too - like going somewhere. Even if it's just to the mall or Wal-mart. It distracts her and we can play in the toy aisles for hours. It makes the time go by much faster, and we're both having a good time doing it, so it works for us! I also take her to McDonald's and let her play in the playscape while I read the newspaper or something. It keeps her happy and I get to enjoy myself for a few minutes! I also babysit a 4-year old and 18-month old twice a week, and she spends her time playing with them...

i am a stay at home mom in the summer time. my hubby works in the summer as a landscaper and when he gets laid off in the winter i return to work. mostly through temporary services so that when summer comes again i can stay at home with my daughter and dont have to pay a sitter or daycare. when she was first born i returned to work after my 6 weeks were up and was paying a sitter 150 a week and i made minumim wage and that took my entire paycheck and what it didnt take was used for gas so i htought what is the point of working when im not making any extra cash. thier are days when i just need a break but i just gotta deal with it. shes to young to go to the park and play and i dont really know anyone in my town i live in since i didnt grow up here.

I always tease my husband as he heads off to his job that he is going to have fun while I stay home to do the "Real" work! I try to get out with my friends or just take some alone time when my hubby is off.

I was a stay at home mom for the better part of 10 years. I know exactly what your saying. Yes, going to work can be seen as taking a break from your kids. The mother of a friend of mine used to say to her caregiver (which happened to be her own mother), "I'm going to work to rest, now" as she was heading out for work. Unless you have experience being a stay at home mom, though the differents stages that children go through, you have no idea what it's like. I've heard people say, "I'd be so bored". Ha! I admit, there were times when I did have some extra time on my hands, as the children got older, but I don't think I was ever bored. When the children are infants, toddlers, then preschoolers, it's never a dull moment. What I expected when I made the decission to become a stay at home mom and what I actually experienced where very different. Up until they both of them were in elementary school, I really didn't have much (if any) downtime. When they were in preschool, it was only part time and I put them in a cooperative preschool where parents were required to be parent/teachers at least one day a week. When they were in school and I was not, I ran home to do some cleaning or I did errands for the few hours that they were in school. Okay, ocassionally I took a nap. To many that sounds like a luxury, but in truth, sometimes it was truly a necessity. Either to keep my mental sanity or to recover from a night with a restless child. When your a stay at home mom, in most cases, dad will NEVER get up with the sick child. You don't have to work tomorrow, so that becomes your job without question. Probably rightly so, but then people shouldn't look down there noses when you have the audacity to take a nap in the middle of the day. I think I wandered off track a little. To answer one of your questions. What I did to get some me time was that I was fortunate enough to become friends with a woman who had a child close the the same ages as my children. We took turns once a week babysitting for eachother so we could each have some "me time". I guess you could call them playdates for the kids. Of course, more often then not, the me time included running errands. Ocassionally I did something more pleasant but I lot of times it was a doctors appt. etc. Good luck raising your kids. It's the toughest job you'll ever have, but it does have it's rewards. Like yummy peanut butter kisses etc. ;-)

i never as a role of stay at home mommy,but when i graduated from school i stayed at home for half year,so boring,i have no kids,every day only shopping and sulfing in the internet,so compared now .i love the life with working,rich and colorful,but you can take your babe walk round anywhere,shopping,and park,so wish you have a good day and merry christmas

I am a stay at home mom and I love it. I get to spend lots of time with my son (I need to stay home and not work because he has special needs) When I need time off my parents or sister take him. When My husband is home I go take a long bath with a good book. We go to play groups and while kids play mother can talk we even have profesionals come talk to us about many things. We also go out a lot even if its just shoping. Once he starts school I will go back to work that will be as of january 2008

I also love being a stay at home mom but I get pretty lonely at times. I miss working and having all of my friends and people to talk to during the day. My daughter is only a year old so she hasn't started talking really. Maybe when she got older and started talking I wouldn't feel so lonely. I agree that people don't realize that it's not all fun and games for the mom. I don't really have any friends that live in my area they all live an hour a way from me so I don't have people to come visit me during the day and everyone that I do know has kids that are a lot older than my child. Good luck to you. Have a very Merry Christmas.

I am so glad that you said this! It certainly makes me feel a little better. I love my son, he's 17 months now and into everything. He wants to be played with all the time and being a work at home mom it gets difficult. I feel like I spend all day going back and forth from entertaining him to getting a little work done. The end of the day comes and I feel exhausted and unaccomplished! Well, recently his grandma and aunts and uncles started taking him on Wednesday afternoons. It is just three hours, but it feels like a huge break! I would definitely see if this is an option. If not a grandparent or relative maybe a day care or tots group. We are new here and I would love him having a play date, but we don't know anyone his age for him to play with...and not having a car keeps us here at home, ALL THE TIME! So you are certainly not alone in it effecting your sanity!

Having been in that situation, I can say it does get better. I stayed at home up until my son was eleven, then went out to work. I also ran a daycare at the time.