dont worry everything is going to be alright

I hate to be told everything is going to be all right, actually. The reason is that people told me that throughout my horrible childhood as if it were an excuse to not actually help me, as if things would just work themselves out. So telling me that "it's going to be all right" just makes me feel more depressed or upset. The best thing to say to me when I'm upset is "Is there something I can do for you?" That gives me a chance to actually say exactly what it is I need at that moment. It might be someone to hold me while I cry, or it might be to get away from me, or it might be just to sit there and spend time with me. But whatever it is, it's not telling me that everything is going to be all right.

hi roni! ^__^ no one has ever said this me when i have a problem. its the other way around. i always tell someone in problem that everything's going to be alright in the end and that he/she shouldn't worry too much. i tell it to myself too when i'm in trouble. somehow, it gives me hope for a better result in the end. its like a blind faith. ^__^ sometimes i think its kind of leaving everything to the future, like its up to fate whatever happens. and when i think that way, i can't help but think that i'm just going into the flow, being happy-go-lucky. ^__^;; anyway, those words calm me. it gives me hope. i don't know about the people whom i told these words though. ^__^

it will kinda ease my worries when my friends says that..and i can think that i dont need to worry coz every problem has a solution...i also motivate my self that i'm not the only one who suffer from so much problems, there are more who suffered than me..well, thats life, with lots of sufferings but should have hope always..dont loose hope, be positive always..

i think this saying doesn't always help. in fact i had a friend who had significant family problems who said that people used to say this to her and it didn't help at all. because sometimes, things don't get alright. they just keep staying rotten. for me, i guess it helps to think that God is with me through it all. no matter how bad things get, He is there. and i have the hope of eternal happiness.

Hi roniroxas, In my opinion that does help a lot to the person in whatever crisis or pain he is.Because if person is in deep worry,pain or crisis he will be in a depressed situation and he may not be able to come out of his problem.The friends words'dont worry everything is going to be alright' will soothen his brain providing a way for him to think more positively. It will help the person to come out to the real world. Then time will take care of him.

Friends and family can say only so much. It will be up to the person going through the pain to sort out their feelings and what makes them happy and on the way to recovery. Although pain is painful, it will go away. "That which does not kill us makes us stronger" and we learn from it.