Do you know any loners

I know a loner, because I see him everday in the mirror, and I can tell you that we hate it when people push us into doing things we don't want, or feel the need, to do. I'm going to try to say this as simply as possible: make us the offer, make us the offer again is we refuse, then leave it at that. Ask us to go somewhere. Ask us again if we say "no". If we say "No" again, then stop. Contrary to what non-loners think, we are not always lonely. We are not always depressed. We don't need the same amount of social-interaction that others do. Personally, I am perfectly happy not being around anyone. That's the way I was made to be. Think of this like discussing rechargable batteries. Some people need a lot of social-charging to feel like they're part of society. To live their lives, and to feel normal. That's perfectly fine. But loners don't need much at all. We are around people long enough to fill up our social-power cells, and that's all we need to keep going because our batteries aren't as large as yours. Anymore than the charging we need, and we get overloaded and the batteries explode - meaning that, emotionally and mentally, we suffer (and, especially if we're young, act out) if we have to be around people longer, or be around more people, than we need to be. We don't need as many friends as others. We don't need to be part of large social groups, or go places where a lot of people are (for a loner, "a lot of people" can be any number over five). If you know a loner, and are trying to get him or her to "come out" more, please stop. They don't need it. What they need is just to know you care (which, they already do), and for you to understand that that don't need it. Just give them the option, and let them choose whether to take it or not. They know that it's their choice. They need you to realize it's their choice, too. By the way - being a loner is not the same as being shy or afraid. You can tell the difference by the way a person reacts to an offer to go out somewhere. If he acts nervous, or is trying to look you in the eye but can't, then he's just shy, and a little pushing (mind you, a LITTLE-don't go overboard by forcing it) wouldn't be bad. If he can look you in the eye, or if he's indifferent; or if he's trying to be polite by telling you no, then he's telling you that he'd rather be alone. It's not an offense to you. He really just doesn't need it.

i'm quite a loner myself...there are times when i find it more comfortable to be with myself rather than socialize with people...but i don't see that as a negative attitude.... a loner's lifestyle may seem boring but for people who opt to be a loner like me are contented with the small world we have.it may be hard at times...but its quite easy....

I honestly don't think I really know any loners. I guess if I did know a loner I would try to get them to do stuff...but hey to each his own right? If he wanted to be a loner then that's his decision and I can't stop him.

My oldest son tends to be a loner. We have tried to get him involved in activities, but he prefers to be alone.

I know a loner very well. Trying to get this guy to open up and go out somewhere his hard as hell. And most of the time impossible. He says he's content living this life. Wheter he is or not is to be determined. But I leave him to his beliefs if it works for him then all the best I guess. How do I know so much about him, well him is me. I'm a loner always have been and always will be. I socialize and all that but 99.9% of the time I fly solo.