At what point does friendship stop being friendship?
By bellaofchaos
@bellaofchaos (11538)
United States
December 21, 2007 11:39pm CST
Good Evening Mylotters I felt like throwing this random discussion out there! At what point do you think friendship stops being friendship? You can take this to either end of the spectrum. Have fun with it. I want to see what your tolerances are to either side of the spectrum. from love to friendship to hate.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Dec 07
I have seen both sides of spectrum in this. I must say. Once a so called friend wanted to take forward this friendship to the next step. I denied as I anticipated it is not the real feelings.After few months ghe behaved so bad that this relation changed to hate for me.
Now I can just hate him.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
24 Dec 07
wow. Sorry to hear that ... Thank you for your insight you have a nice holiday.
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@morphina (51)
• United States
22 Dec 07
For me its when someone betrays you or lies to you. I have had my boyfriend stolen by more then one so called friend, and been lied to, and stolen from. I treat my friends like family so it hurts more when things end on a bad note. That being said I do have to say I have been blessed to know some amazing people in my life that I am still friends with, and to come across more then one true friend.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
22 Dec 07
I completely agree with you. My bestfriend ended up sleeping with my exhusband when we were together. She totally betrayed everything. I can never forgive her or him.
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@berryliciousme (1003)
• Philippines
22 Dec 07
BF or Husband Stealing is a big no-no, I wont' even consider dating one of my friend's exes (the serious ones) out of respect to our friendship.
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@morphina (51)
• United States
30 Dec 07
I think that many guys/girls see how happy someone is and want it for themselves. Then when they realize what they have done because it was done to them, and by then its to late to go back and repair the friendship. I have made a point of loving my friends no matter what. But when you do something that unforgivable you inflict an emotional wound that can't be healed no matter what you do.
@mohit1123 (564)
• India
23 Dec 07
Well if you are good friends then i must say you should know the other side of the spectrum as well. Even if you dont you should both be understanding that one doesnt mean to hurt someone intensionally that is how u have good friendship. i think so.
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@lucgeta (924)
• France
25 Dec 07
I don't get a word you said man ... lol ... I am not even sure if I get this betraying thing ... sometimes business are business ... they are not included in friendship.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
23 Dec 07
thank you i agree with that also ...
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@berryliciousme (1003)
• Philippines
22 Dec 07
When one deliberately hurt or betray the other person due to selfish reasons... I think that's when a friendship ends.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
22 Dec 07
Thank you for your response. Now on the other hand I question about it going from one end to the spectrum to the other. Meaning ok I know that when betrayl hits the friendshipends but what happens if you find out that no one has betrayed you they just have had their feeling for you hidden how does a friendship survive that?
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@willace1 (3)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 07
When they stab you from behind !!..... (that the bad thing though)....
But sometimes friendship do stop when there are LOVE within it (I happen to experienced it once), I don't know why though... In my case, when we realize our feelings it makes us kinda... seperated (or far maybe).... So our friendship broke..... (T_T).... Guess why it could happen ???
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@dbeast (1495)
• India
14 Jan 08
Friendship is something really great but there is a thin line which one should not cross.we can always hear people saying that they have friends who know everything about them and all that stuff.it is nearly impossible to know any person.we might know a person for years together to be a normal person but that person will turn out to be a monster.when a person just befriends another person for his own good then that is betraying one's trust and that is the worst thing ever.
@lucgeta (924)
• France
25 Dec 07
Is there really a spectrum "love - companionship - friendship - tolerance - intolerance - discrimination - hate"?
Most of people we love have never been our friends, sometimes you barely saw it before. Hate is the same thing.
A friendship can be broken when someone gets hurt and can't forgive. Most cases it does not turn into hate, just ones prefers not be around anymore for pride or wound not healed.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
25 Dec 07
Very thoughtful. It really makes you think about the situation. Thank you for your response.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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14 Jan 08
When they deliberately go out their way to hurt you knowing your weak spots and attacking them, recently a so called friend who i had helped in many a situation moved in with my ex-husband knowing how much this would hurt me and the children and didn't even have the guts to tell me, got him to do it cos she knew I wouldn't be her friend anymore
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
14 Jan 08
I so sympathize with you. My exhusband and me seperated becuase he didn't want the responsibility of a family. See an earlier post of mine called friends romance and relationship. cheating. that will give a little back ground. but if you don't want to here's the short we were seperated and then tried to work it out by him getting helpfor things and counseling and while we were trying to work it out she slept with him and him with her and I never spoke to her agian and told him to take a flying leap. So I know what you mean and how you feel because we had two kids together at the time.So I feel with you and agree with you 100%.
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