Why do girls need to leave their home after marriage?

hi jaindynike! i will tell you my story. i got married last may and it was agreed upon that i will have to live with my in-laws. my husband is chinese, so it is but tradition that the husband should bring his wife home, not the other way around. anyway, on our first night, we stayed at the hotel, which was free with our reception. the next night, we were supposed to go home, but then there were so many guests at my in-laws' house and there is hardly any room for us. so i suggested that we stay at my parents' house for a night, until the guests have left. but my mother in law told me that it is their custom...so we ended up staying at their house, in one room with them and the rest of the cousins and aunties during the second night of our marriage! lol when i remember that, i just laugh. hehehe anyway, other than that. i don't really have a problem with living with them. i actually happy and since their house is located in a commercial district, i find it easy to go around my clients. i don't waste a lot of time in traffic and i don't get to spend much on fares. and i don't have problems with my in-laws either. sometimes i think things would have been very different if we live with my parents. i don't think my parents would agree with minute areas of my husband's personality and these little things add up. but i sure get along well with my in-laws and we are just better off visiting my parents once in a while. :-)

I'm not sure how you mean that. Are you talking about if they both still live with their parents that it's the wife that has to leave home to live with her in-laws or do you mean when both have their own place, the woman usually moves in with the man? I don't think it should be a given that the woman automatically leaves where ever she lives to move in with her husband. It's a case-by-case thing. If one lives alone and the other at home, then that person should move out of their parents' house, but if their both in the same situation, they should decide together which living arrangement is best. I for one absolutely refuse to ever even speak with my in-laws, much less live with them. I helped my fiance set up his own place so it's really ours, even though I primarily live with my mother. I doubt if much will change once we're officially married.

This is purely cultural. I know it is the practice in India and some other countries but in Western Society it happens very rarely. Before marriage both men and women usually have jobs and careers and often already live together in his or her apartment. When they get married they have their own place away from either parents. I agree with you if your culture dictates this moving to the husband's house with the inlaws there it must be very hard to take. I guess traditions only change if more and more people ignore a certain tradition but it is a slow process.

It's because the father can't wait to get the daughter out of the house and get his bathroom back! haha I know what you mean though. Isn't it supposed to be that the new bride becomes almost a slave to the mother-in-law and helps to run the household? The tradition in the UK used to be that the couple moved into their own accommodation after marriage. Now, they have already been living together and have ten children before they marry! haha

I am not married yet or anything, but my boyfriend moved into my apartment instead of me movieng into his. It is just easier that way. My apartment is cheaper and I have more stuff than he does. But I am sure when we get married we will get a house and live in that instead of an apartment and it would be like we are starting fresh.:) Instead of living in the other persons house. And Plus it seems to be fairer that way too!

It's about tradition I think. For me, I had my own house that empty for long time, because I'm still young and stay with my parents. The house became bad, need to rebuild. When I get married, I said to my husband that we better moved to my house and he should rebuild the house because my house in good location. So for me the point is if we married we should build our kingdom, no matter who is buy the house.