WHY ARE U ANGRY?
By raj_librans
@raj_librans (50)
India
October 29, 2006 8:15am CST
if you are angry with someone...for some reason...feel free to discuss here. we ll try to solve out.
6 responses
@mahaneesh (297)
• India
30 Oct 06
well my suggestion for those who feel angry on others and spoil their relations is... give time to the other person to tell why he or she did tht... then forget tht happened with you and next morning think about that and talk to that person again and then you can handle it more greatly and even your image will be like a disciplined person infront of that person. and you will get respect too....
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@raj_librans (50)
• India
30 Oct 06
i go with you my dear friend and so i rated u + for that...hope other guys also comes out and put on their valuable advise out here
@istanto (8548)
• Indonesia
29 Oct 06
hmmm.. i get anger with my parents. they love my sister more than me they pay my syster school and not pay mine.. that's why i come here to looking extra money so i can save it for paying my school. until now im still anger i dont talk to much with my parents
@raj_librans (50)
• India
29 Oct 06
well in that case my dear friend you should talk to your parents and talk with them frankly...dont just supress your anger.its bad...my advise for you is to go and talk to parents how you feel. ok ? my dear friend
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I am very angry with someone, and I don't know if I'll ever get past it.
I spent 4 years teaching in a little special K-12 school in Tennessee. I was given few materials, no support, and lots of problem children. I worked day and night to find materials to use with my various curriculums. And I might add that I taught four different configurations of K & 1, and every year I had new curriculums to prepare for. I had many parents tell me I did an excellent job.
Throughout my time there there was unheaval higher up in the ranks. I had 4 different principals and 3 different directors while I was there. The last principal was a real lulu. He wasn't hired until October, so we all knew he was someone that hadn't been able to get a job somewhere else prior to the beginning of the school year.
He was a terrible principal. His favorite pastime was to sit in his office on the computer. I seldom had any interface with him, because he almost never came into my classroom, and teachers don't get out much. He kept issuing and reissuing stupid things, like the calling chain, while failing to address the real problems in the school. If we finally broke down out of desperation and sent a child to him for discipline, he would hug and kiss him, tell them he loved him, and send them back to class telling him that he knew what a good boy he was. Of course, this didn't help at all!
Somewhere during the 2nd semester I found him being very rude to me. During one meeting discussing a problem parent with a problem child he told me that I needed to just do my job and shut up. Another time he asked me, "Why don't you just retire?" I continued to do the excellent job teaching that I'd always done, but he got nastier and nastier to me. I assumed (correctly) that this other teacher was bad mouthing me to him, because she'd been bugging me all year to quit working so hard because I would make the other teachers look bad.
At the end of the year, when everyone is so stressed and tired, he decided we were going to have award ceremonies and give awards to every child K-8. We objected saying that giving awards to bad students would only negate the ones kids who really earned them got, but he was adamant. I went online, found cute awards, and personalized one for each of my children. I ran them past the principal who told me they were fine.
Then we all received an e-mail telling us that we had to do something different, and these instructions just kept changing and changing and changing. One afternoon late I was given notes to send home announcing still more changes we hadn't heard about to parents. It was only half an hour before the kids would go home. Since the guy had made so many errors in written things he had done, I wanted to make sure the notes were correct before sending them home.
I just wanted to ask a quick question, and I only had about 2 minutes until my kids would be back in from PE, so I went to his office and uncharacteristically interrupted a conversation he was having. There is no special door on his office, so he was right in plain sight. He snarled, "I'm busy here." I said it would only take a second and asked about the note. Again snarling he said, "It's that way because I said so." and he turned away. Quietly I crunched up a paper I had in my hand and threw it in the wastebasket as I walked out the door. I was extremely angry, but I seldom show it.
School was out, and we went home to Iowa to start getting our new house ready to live in. When we went back down south to prepare to move, I planned to call the school to turn in my resignation. However, a letter from the principal awaited me. It was totally nasty. He took 2 little incidents that had happened and out of context blew them up to major incidents. He told me that I was a trouble maker, and that he was going to look for any reason to recommend my dismissal by the board. It was all so wrong. I was crushed after I had put in so much extra effort to help that poor, failing school. It was all so unfair.
I still cry when I think about it. I'd gone in to work at 5:30 every morning to get things prepared for the day. I'd spent thousands of dollars from my own pocket for materials to use with my classes. I'd been given a dirty, ugly classroom and spent my own money on paint and gave up my summer to remodel and turned the room into what everyone told me was the most delightful room in the building. And on and on, and then this guy who didn't hardly know me and had no idea what I'd done treated me like this. The director told me that that was his right, and when I told him I wouldn't be back, he never even thanked me for what I had done.
Sorry to go on and on, but how would you feel?
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@raj_librans (50)
• India
29 Oct 06
well first of all i would like to congratulate u for all the efforts you have made to educate those little kids...i really have respect for u.But what u have got in return was really pathetic...but i would suggest to not to become angry as you should accept that such type of person does exists in out society...what i would have done if i were in your place was i would first find his weakness( that every human being has) and make full use of it to take him under my control...now by this I dont mean that i ll kidnap his loved ones and threaten him...wat i mean is I would do small small things that he likes...for example if he is fashion conscious i uld give him a tip on what will suit him...what wount...like that...got it ? and even if that doesnt work out i would suggest u to leave that department( not ur job) and continue in some other place... hope my advise ll help u a pinch...take care...and ya...keep up ur good work...there are other person who is there to appreciate your work