I am so emotional right now
By Ms Michelle
@lenapoo (678)
United States
December 24, 2007 9:13pm CST
I guess its just because I'm pregnant, but I would like to know what you think. Lately, my husband has been coming in the house just fussing me out for no reason at all. I mean like every single day he does that. He does it so bad to the point that I cry and then he criticizes me for crying. I feel like the worst person in the world these past few weeks. One of my friends told me that since I'm pregnant I'm very emotional, but I beg to differ. I mean no matter what I do it's never good enough for him. So I try harder an then there is always some reason why what I do is just not good enough ever. He makes me feel so small in front of my kids and I have never done that to him. What should I do? What can you do when you love someone so much and it seems they don't even care?
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8 responses
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Dec 07
Well first of all, you have to love yourself. Then, you have to decide if this is the type of man that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Did he just become this way since you have been pregnant or are you just noticing it for the first time.
I think that you need to sit down and have a serious talk with him. You may even need to go to counseling. You do not want to bring another child into that kind of environment. If you feel that he is being critical, ask him how have things changed? Be careful because you don't want to get so upset that you do any harm to your baby.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
31 Dec 07
First and foremost I love myself. I have been through alot with my husband and I don't take things for granted. Right now is just an emotional time for me. Yeah, he did just start acting different all of a sudden, but I know that he's a good person. When I'm not pregnant what seems harsh now is nothing once I have the baby.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
30 Dec 07
I can't know for sure because I'm not there and I don't know your husband, but I'd bet it's not true that he doesn't care. It is true you get more emotional than usual when pregnant and also it could be your husband's going through a bit of an emotional roller-coaster himself right now. I'm not making excuses for him hurting you, that's not right no matter what, but I think you have to stop beating yourself up! You're both going through a lot of stress right now, no matter how you look at it - you have kids and another one on the way and the holidays are here - that's enough to make anyone extra emotional and some people unfortunately tend to take it out on others. Try to relax and enjoy the rest of the holidays. Best of luck with your baby, Hon; cheer up!
Annie
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
31 Dec 07
Thank you for understanding that it is a two way street and just for reminding me that he has issues going on with him to. I sometimes fail to realize that.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
28 Dec 07
Its known that women who are pregnant are more emotional, i for one have experienced that stage. But then your husband does not have the right to treat you that way, he should be more understanding with what you are undergoing...and take care of you more, husbands can be so insensitive at times...why not demand it to them, it doesn't mean if you love him that much you will just keep quit with the way he is treating you...he is doing it to you because you let him do that to you..be strong and somehow love yourself.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
29 Dec 07
Yes that much is true. I had talked to him about it after posting this message because it was really bothering me and he in fact apologized and I felt alot better. Talking things out does make the situation much better.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
25 Dec 07
Is this a recent thing that he's fussing at you? Did you ask him why he does this? Maybe he is under stress or something is bothering him. If he is not treating you with respect you need to get to the bottom of his behavior and let him know his behavior is unacceptable. If you take it and don't say anything it will get worse he may feel like he has the right to treat you like that if you don't do anything about it. You are teaching him how to treat you if you continue to put up with it. Stand up for yourself, you deserve to be treated with respect even from your husband and accept nothing less.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
25 Dec 07
You are exactly right. I do express to him that it hurts my feelings and he just brushes it off like yeah, whatever. I feel so low at times, but that still isn't excuse for allowing someone to treat me this way. Thanks for the support in this particular matter.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
31 Dec 07
Just keep on believing. An understand and know that if it is meant for you to have kids then God will bless you with them.
@fianne (1057)
• United States
25 Dec 07
yes you are very emotional at that state. and the cause is your husband. you won't be emotional anyway if your husband is treating you good and tries to comfort you in any way especially that what you are carrying in your womb is heavey...
i suggest you try to talk to him. tell him how you feel. if he won't listen, i suggest that you stay away from him for awhile. think of your health and think of that baby inside you. if you don't feel good everyday because of that emotional stress, your baby will not feel good at all too and will feel the stress you have, especially coming from his or her father. please, rest and try to be open to him. if he won't, make yourself happy and that baby inside you, leave him alone.
@mulangyu (10)
• China
26 Dec 07
If I love with someone who don't care me,I'll let him go, give him a chance to met someone who he is really love,also give me a chance to acheive myself happyness too.
However, there's aready one little baby with you, It's hard to give you any suggestion because one had say, the third one never know what't the really beween the two. just I hope you more intellect at this moment. both for you and your baby!
Bless you !
