Think your pregnant, but you know hubby dioesn't want any kids
By sedel1027
@sedel1027 (17846)
Cupertino, California
7 responses
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
25 Dec 07
They have been using protection (she is on the pill plus they are using other methods). She is not late yet, but she "feels" pregnant. I think she has another week until she is late.
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@luluwow (165)
• United States
25 Dec 07
Curious - if she is on the pill why are they also using other methods? Also, why is she acting like it is her "fault" if she is pregnant, he was involved too! :-) Sounds like they have a communication problem if she feels that nervous and uncomfortable with his reaction to a situation they both may have created. If the relationship is healthy it will work out, however it sounds like it may not be a good relationship at all.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
26 Dec 07
They are using more than one method because he has a child from a previous relationship that was concieved when his ex was on the pill. They are trying to be better safe than sorry. They have been together for about 10 years, married for 8, has worked so far.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
26 Dec 07
This, from what I understand, has nothing to do with love. He loves his wife, treats her like a queen. He just doesn't want any more kids.
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@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
27 Dec 07
Love has nothing to do with wanting kids or wanting more kids. My husband and I are very much in love, but we never want kids nor will we ever have kids.
@talisman (1300)
• United States
29 Dec 07
She needs to first find out if she actually is pregnant before freaking out about it. Early pregnancy symptoms and PMS are pretty much identical, so many women end up confusing the two fo them. If she is in fact pregnant, then she needs to tell her husband about it. It's takes two to make a baby. If he didn't want anymore kids, he should have gotten a vasectomy.
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@Mamagee (392)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 07
Everything happen in our life comes in God will. A child is a very worthful gift in our life. So as a husband a future is more important. Everybody will become older and older and think about when we are too old and six. Who will you look for? Who will take good care of you? Well.. if your answer is your children... why should you reject it now? The important thing now is our roll as a parent...
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@lightningd (1039)
• United States
31 Dec 07
I have to agree with the people who said that if the husband doesn't want more children that he should get a vasectomy. I would like to add, though, that rather than panic, perhaps she should go buy a home pregnancy kit and find out. If that isn't an option, many health departments offer testing for a minimal charge.
Something to take into consideration though, for women, many doctors do not want to do sterilization on women usually under 25. (Makes no sense to me, but that is how some are.)
Since they have been together for so long, I have a feeling that maybe it won't be as bad as she thinks, that maybe she should sit down with her husband and have a serious discussion about it. Even if she gets tested and she isn't pregnant, they need to sit down and discuss the issue. Birth controll pills have been shown to increase the risk of cancer. But if the two of them seriously do not want children, they should consider sterilization. Then there would be far fewer scares in the future.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
29 Dec 07
The more she freaks out the more pregnant she may feel because stress can do funny things to a body. She needs to just try to stay calm until she can test and hope for the best either way. The thing about this that bothers me is that she's "freaked out" about telling her hubby. I understand the part about him not wanting more kids but if they were doing everything they could to prevent it short of permanent methods it's not like he can be mad at her and from the sounds of it he's not that kind of husband anyway. I think it's more her worries for herself than for her hubby's reaction. I'm curious if there are any updates yet since it's been 4 days...
