I Am Afraid Part 2
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
December 25, 2007 5:38pm CST
If my friends here remember, on Thanksgiving, my sister told me that her 19 year old was dating a forty-five year old man nad that he wanted her to have his baby.
Well, the only good news about my sister moving to Atlanta is that the 19 year old will not be going, but will be moving in with her natural father. He is from Nigeria and he does not play. She was staying with him before and she came home late and he slapped her to the floor.
Now, I am far from saying that I like the idea of her being slapped to the floor, but I know if she is over there, there will be no more 45 year old boyfriend and I dare her to come up pregnant. He told her a long time ago when she wanted a baby before, that if she came up pregnant, he would disown her.
I am praying to God that he works all of this out smoothly. I need a miracle. This has a little to do with selfishness, because I love my sister to much for her to be so far away. But, it wouldn't be so bad, if I knew for sure that her and the kids were going to be safe.
I really don't believe that my sister wants to go, but for some reason, she feels like she has no choice. She is the one working and paying the mortgage, but it is his house. She could leave him, but I think she is afraid to.
Remember, how I told you before that he was yelling at my sister and looked so much like he was going to hit her, that three of his kids got in his face and was ready to fight him. And his favorite daughter didn't even want to apologize to him later on. She is a Senior in High School right now and she is going to stay with one of my brother-in-laws sisters, until she graduates and then she is planning to go to Atlanta. Something tells me, that that will certainly not happen. She also turns eighteen in June and I don't think she will leave.
Well I will continue to keep you guys updated on what's going on. I am going to get off this computer and do some serious praying right now.
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4 responses
@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
26 Dec 07
It sounds like your niece's daddy will keep her in line. At least she will have that kind of authorty in her life and hopefully she won't turn up pregnant. I know you would feel better about the move if you knew they would be safe. Just leave it to the Lord. He'll keep your family safe. It doesn't sound like the kids are too crazy about their father though. It's a shame your sister won't leave this guy. It sounds like she could make it on her own, ya know? She pays the bills and takes care of the family. She just needs the inner strength to leave. Good luck with your family, Rozie.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
28 Dec 07
I hope that she finally gets fed up before they leave for Atlanta. She can make it on her own. All she hast to do is trust God. I am going to trust him to protect them no matter what they decide. I will miss them like crazy. Thank you so much for your love and support as always. God bless you. my friend.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
26 Dec 07
It is good that your nineteen year old is staying with her real father and that he is strict. He will make sure that she toes the line and keep her away from older men who just want to use her body. I am sad to learn though that your sister is married to this lazy bum who owns the house and yet refuses to do any work. Can your sister not be able to transfer ownership from her husband to herself? She should be able to keep the receipts as proof, then if something happens, at least she has shelter for her and her children.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
26 Dec 07
Actually to be honest with you, I don't know how they are selling the house. My brother-in-law's mom left the house to his oldest son. She did not trust the property in her sons hands, so she left it to her grandson who lives in another city.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
28 Dec 07
Its really sad when teenagers have their whole lives ahead of them and all they want to do is listen to some 45 year old man and have their baby. I hope it doesn't come to that and that when she moves in with her father that things will start to change for the better. I think this man is taking advantage of her and the sooner someone makes her see that he is, the better. Maybe having her father in the picture might help change things. You and your family are in my prayers Rozie!
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
27 Dec 07
Rozie it sure sounds like the whole move is so messed up and the family will be divided in several areas. I hope it works out fine.
About buying the house for him, I do not know how she can pay the mortgage and have the home in his name only. When my husband and I bought our home we used his credit but put my name on the deed. He could not just put my name on the deed. If you brother in-law is not working then what income does he have to make a payment on a home?
Does your sister have a job already in Alanta? I sure home so, or does she have a skill that she can get a job easily. I sure hope she will not be without a job for long.
I pray everything will work out for all involved.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
28 Dec 07
My brother-in-laws brother has agree to pay for everything. But, it is still a mess. They have not done any real planning. You can't just up and do a last minute move to another state in 60 days like that. It's just sad. You would think they were running from something.
