being the middle sister is hard...

Hello. I guess you just have to maintain your individuality. I mean, treat the way your sister (eldest) like the way you treat any humans (say strangers or not). Set aside first your blood relation, assert to her how you feel with what she is doing. :)

Talk to your older sister and tell her how you feel. I'm also a middle child, with an older and younger sister. There's about 5 years age difference either way, so my older and younger sister didn't have much to say to each other for a long time. I was kind of the go-between, because I could related to both of them on some level. Now that we're all adults and have kids, it's a little easier though -- like the scales have balanced or something. When I was a kid though... I had what could be considered middle child syndrome, but it wasn't something that my parents intended. I saw my older sister have this huge blow out party for her 16th birthday for example. It included a huge surprise party, dinner at a really nice restaurant while the party was being set up and a diamond ring as a gift. When my 16th birthday came around, my parents couldn't afford much. Mom made a cake, I got a few cassettes that I wanted. That was it. My older sister felt bad and took me to get a hair cut and took me out to lunch and stuff... but if you step back and compare the occasion for each of us, it looks like I really got the shaft. Especially since my younger sister also got a big party for her 16th birthday and opal earrings. It's not something that my parents planned. There was just no money when I turned 16 to do anything for me. Plus, we'd just moved from California to New Jersey, so I didn't really have a lot of friends that I'd want to invite over for a party anyway. I know my mom felt really bad, but I wasn't bothered by it. I knew that there was no money, so I kept my wish list inexpensive. My younger sister would have pushed for the party and gotten it, and maybe we would have had to cut back somewhere else, but I'm not that kind of person. Besides, my parents paid a LOT of money for me because I was in color guard -- something my sisters never did, so I think it balanced the scales in the end.

while i have a younger and older sister also, my older sis and i are only 12 mos. apart and my younger sis is 7 yrs. our jr. so my older sis and i are very close compared to our relationship with our younger sis! so she pretty much gets the shaft, except with my mom, my mom spoils her rotten and calls her, her baby! i think u should tell ur sis how u feel, if it doesn't work then maybe u and ur younger sis can separate urselves from her for a while!

It wasnt hard for me, im a middle sister. we are 5 sisters. and we get along very well. Maybe because we give and take. and authority is distributed fairly. Sometimes my older sister ask me to do errands for her and i can do the same.

The best thing you should do is talk to your older sister, and tell her what you feel. Then if she still like that, tell your mother about your older sister attitude.

I have known many middle children (I am the baby so can't speak for myself) and this seems to be something most of them face. Just know she is just throwing around her rank as older sister and someday you will be best friends and can look back and give her a hard time about how she treated you and hopefully laugh about it. Sounds like she might be jealous.