Ingredients for a relationship at purpose
By dreamy1
@dreamy1 (3811)
United States
December 28, 2007 10:00pm CST
I've read a lot of books by Dr. Wayne Dyer http://www.drwaynedyer.com/. He's a motivational speaker with a very spiritual outlook. Reading his books are very thought provoking to me and I want to share some of his ideas. These ideas about relationships have really made me think. Here are his ingredients for "relationships at purpose." I hope you can take away something that might change your relationships for the better.
1. Relinquish your need to be right
what's more important being right or being kind?
2. Allow space.
everyone needs their time to be by themselves to do their own thing allow that person to be themselves you don't need to be with them 24/7 Don't smother the other person to the point where they feel trapped.
3. Eliminate the idea of ownership.
you do not have the right to tell people with whom you are in a relationship what they ought to be doing while they are here on earth. That is only between each person and their soul.
4. Know that you do not have to understand why someone else would want to do and think the way they do.
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@berryliciousme (1003)
• Philippines
29 Dec 07
Thank you for sharing this to us. I really believe in the 3rd one you pointed out. A sense of belongingness is good but when we try to dictate our partner's with what we think is good for them, I think resentments would come next. We should be supportive of our partner's endeavors and let them grow to be the best that they could be.
May I add a something from Kahlil Gilbran's The Prophet:
Give your hearts but not into each other's keeping
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together.
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
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@treasurechest (67)
• United States
30 Dec 07
Relinquishing the need to be right is a tough habit to break but you're right about evaluating what's more important. Is being right really that rewarding anyway? On the other hand, relinquishing the opportunity to take your stand and instead embracing the one that you love is so much more satisfying. I would add another. Strive to be sacrificial in loving your special someone. Relationships that work do succeed because both people are looking to meet each other's needs and not their own. It goes against the popular idea of looking out for #1 but it is what makes a relationship go the distance.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
29 Dec 07
Talk about wonderful words to live by! That should be given to every couple before their wedding ceremony or before they move in together! I think the majority of problems that arise within relationships could be avoided if everyone followed those guidelines. If someone isn't willing or able to follow them, they're not willing or able to be in an equal, committed relationship. Great post!
Annie
@joyantrealty (9)
• Philippines
29 Dec 07
how i wish that my husband can read this! lol. he might think twice!!!
