my sister

Hi punlonnjack, It is good that you are there for your sister to talk to. I know it is very troubling knowing that your sister is talking of wanting to die. Her significant other does not seem to be having an impact on improving her situation. It has me wondering if he may be part of her problems. This is a very difficult time for her. Ask her what she is trying to do to get back on her feet?. Is she looking at all the resources in her community for job placement and/or training, or is she being irresponsible? Either way, it looks like something you will have to alert your parents of. Is she stuck where she is? Maybe you could pay her a visit if it is not too much trouble for you or her; and you could see the situation for yourself. She needs to be educated on her options and she needs someone that will help her change her life; and she should want to make a change for the better in her life. See how to get your parents or other close supportive family and or friends involved. Perhaps if she is able to be with people who love and support her there can be an increase in her self motivation and an improvement in her emotional state due to having help "starting over" or "getting on" with her life. I hope this helps. Take Care and Happy New Year.

Sounds like she's thinking about her troubles too much... she should hang out some more, and forget about her troubles a bit. Money is something that is easy to earn (if you don't know how, it doesn't mean it is hard... you just have to learn). Maybe she should find a nice job that would make her feel she has enough money to go by, and start building at the same time something of her own. I think this is the best solution, since finding a well paid job that would also satisfy her is a hard thing, but building her own satisfying business is much easier... People say tat money isn't important, but it is. It makes us feel secure, and lack of it puts us in stress, so the first thing is to get some with a job that insures a few $$$ a month. The big money can be made at her own free time, while she's building her monthly salary. I guess that when she would have a plan and an income source at hand, she would be occupied and more secured at the same time and things would get better.

I guess the only way that you can help her is to give her emotional support. Show her how important it is that she finds a job to help support herself. If she is talking about wanting to die she needs phyciatric help also. Maybe her to find support groups in her area.

I can understand how you feel helpless because you can't help your sister financially. I'm sure she realizes that and probably just needs you to be a good listener and to give her hope, a light to lead her out of the darkness. Comforting her may be the most important thing you can do for her right now. Mention of wanting to die should be taken very seriously. Depression can really get the best of a person. She needs reasons to live! Practically can you suggest some jobs for her to look into, assist her with her resume, suggest that she gets out of her relationship which seems like it's not going in a good direction? Maybe she can move in with you for awhile? Being a Christian I will lift your sister up in prayer to Jesus and ask him to keep her from despair, to show her just how much He loves her and that He has the answers because He is the way, the truth and the life. I will stop and pray for her right now.