A Chance To Snoop Would You Take It
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
December 29, 2007 3:27pm CST
I am sitting here toying with the idea, sorry I have been toying with the idea for some time now, my ex is not very good with computers or the internet, and I had to set up an account for him so naturally I know his log in details and password!
I am really tempted to go into his account, he doesn't have a computer at home, he always relied on using mine, or me doing his emails for him! To find out what he's been saying, or what he's up to, I could get some information on his plans, forearmed is forewarned.
Is there anyway he can find out that I have logged into his account? He uses the computer at work, he has his work account email which I can't tap into.
After him harrassing my mum today to find out where I was! I feel so tempted to do it, but something at the back of my mind is saying he'll find out somehow, how do you know that someone has got into your email account. He's got hotmail.
As per my previous discussions about the shite hitting the fan, well it did today and he's found out from the landlord that I am threatening litigation against the landlord for not giving me back my deposit or taking my name off the lease
Now my ex is very angry is will be gunning for me. I don't know what was in that letter he got today, but I could find out what he plans to do if he is still using his hotmail account
What would you do in my scenario?
I need all the ammunition I can get to stop him coming after me xxx
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16 responses
@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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29 Dec 07
I have just been on my hotmail to see if you can read an email and then mark it as unread. Yes you can, so as long as you make sure you do this he will never know.
Ok, it may be wrong, but if this is the only way you can get him off your back by having some info on what he is up to then bloody go for it. He deserves no favours dear Wolfie. What is happening between you and your ex landlord is between you two and not him.
He needs to get a life and leave you alone.
I am so glad you finally made the move away from him, just imagine what it would be like if you were still there.
My thoughts and best wishes are with you my dear friend.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 07
No doubt he'll be screaming and shouting as he always did, trouble is he has no audience, he'll phone up his ex before me, my so best friend and he'll get GBH of the earholes, the man is a ticking time bomb, he is Jekyll and Hyde, I must have needed my head tested, sorry to rant off! Thanks my friend, I'll very much doubt if I get any info, but hey, if you don't try ;0)
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@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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30 Dec 07
You rant away Wolfie, its what we do best.
I hope he finds a stone and crawls under it very soon the loonie tune!!
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@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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30 Dec 07
LOL
I am on Double Secret Probation with Hotmail so don't tell anyone Raz:))
@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
29 Dec 07
Hello Dear Friend,
What a idea you have there, unsure if he will know, I don't have a hotmail account, but I do have a yahoo one and if you open someone's mail you can mark it unread and they will never know
... I would have already been there reading, but that is me, keep me apprised on what you do,
Hugs
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 07
His work account would be gold if I could get into that, but him not having a computer at home will mean he probably uses his work account 99% of the time, sadly! It might say last logged in 29th Dec and if he hasn't used it for weeks then it'll show up like a sore thumb, hmmm weigh up the pros and cons on this one. Did you have a good Christmas my friend?
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I would have already been there and then denied, denied, denied ... he he
Had a wonderful Christmas, spent way too much money, but everyone loved their gifts.
Hopefully yours was as happy and enjoyable!
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@tammyr (5946)
• Etowah, Tennessee
29 Dec 07
All's fair in love and war, RIGHT!
Really I think going into someone else's e-mail is wrong IF you haven't been given the password. But He knows you have it so I am sure there won't be anything there he doesn't want you to see.
You can mark as unread and I have never seen anything that says "Last log in date" So if you decide to go in, I don't see how he would know unless you let something slip.
Good luck
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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9 Jan 08
I probably would.
Least then I could spend the time finding out who I can and can't trust, while having some fun in the process. I think it would be pretty easy for me to accept it, I'd doubt I would reject such as thing.
Use it wisely I would.
~Joey
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
1 Jan 08
First and foremost do not ever tell someone what you might do..If you are getting a lawyer just do it and then take his advice..that is what you are paying for..then forget about it..Sweets I would not snoop because I believe that everyone deserves their privacy.. I try to treat others the way I wish to be treated...I do not believe in the do unto others before the have a chance to do it to you...Just not my thing!
Good luck Sweets
xoxoxoxo
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
7 Jan 08
I would definitly look at his emails. You need to protect yourself and know what he's up to. Besides if he is stupid enough to not change his passwords he deserves for you to snoop. I don't think there is a way he would know you looked, other than the email would show that it was opened. For example, me emails have an envelope in front of them and the envelope would be open if someone read them. But if he is as bad about the internet as you speak, he probably wouldn't even notice.
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@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
30 Dec 07
trust me, you don't want to do this cause you will find out things that you wish you never knew. Bad idea all the way around.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
30 Dec 07
I don't think that he would be able to find out as long as you sign out again and do not touch anything as such just make sure to leave it as it is when you log out again
As far as I know it is not possible for anyone to tell that someone has been on the account unless things are deleted
But do make sure to try and find that out 100% xxx
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
30 Dec 07
hey sweetie, with hotmail accounts you can read unread emails and then when your done mark them as 'unread' easy as that, there is actually no way for him to find out if anyone has been in his account other than himself unless he knows how to use tracking programs that actually have to be running at the time someone signed in OR if he's in MSN or such at the time you sign in, and the only way he would know then is if you were to check out his MSN *Windows Live Messenger* at the time, he'll then get a message saying that someone else has signed into his account and he'll be signed out, but if you go the way of the browser, he'll never know, in msn or not.
i would do it just for safety sake for yourself if you know what i mean which it seems you do.
I had to do the same with an ex of mine because the SOB was stalking me.
Take care, if you need any information on computers or internet lemme know, i'm a techs daughter who had to be better than him in every way, so from hardware to software to the world wide web, i can help with almost anything. :)
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
30 Dec 07
I would send him an email directly and tell him to stop bothering your mom and let him reply to you, you know he's angry and will say a lot in his email to you and then you have this proof in the event you both wind up in court. I would be afraid if someone at his job (who knows computers well) finds out you had logged into his hotmail account that can be used against you so maybe it's better that you give him the opportunity to write you and if he makes any threats to you there is your proof in writing. I think a letter directly to you is stronger proof than anything negative he might say to a third party about you. Good luck with this wolfie.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
30 Dec 07
Sorry, wolfie, but I don't know anything at all about logging into someone's email, but I've heard it can be done. It makes sense to me that if you set everything up you should have no problem gaining access to the account. I'm just hoping that you won't let this situation take you back to a bad place where you won't want to be.
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@praykin (350)
• United States
30 Dec 07
I would and did take the chance when I had the opportunity. I didn't feel bad about snooping at the time until after I read what was in the e-mails. But if it's information that you're looking for then I would suggest you do whatever you can to get what you need. The only place that I've ever seen "last login date" was on myspace, so I don't think you have to worry about it. Good luck in your endeavors and I hope you get some dirt on him.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
30 Dec 07
I would not do that, not unless you suspect he is doing something illegal. If you do, and if your solicitor suggests that it is all right, go ahead, but it would more than likely that he will know what to do. You must not get into his work email, because more than likely, his boss knows the password to that account and is monitoring it. As for the litigation against the landlord, what happens is between you and the landlord and not the landlord and him.
The best bet is to contact your solicitor and let him or her tell you how to handle this. Taking things into your own hands might hurt you in the end.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
30 Dec 07
Hello dear wolfie friend. I could understand your situation as your friend asked you to help doing emails for him. Only very good friends could ask you for help with their emails. So in this case, it is very natural and you don't have to feel guilty about this as you are helping him out.
Well, one of my students asked me to help him apply for an account at Mylot and an email address for her and I really helped her. But later when she asked me to help check and do some responses for her, I refused and I even urged her to change her account for this although she believes in me. Thanks very much for your discussion, dear wolfie.
