A true end to a relationship for ever!
By subha12
@subha12 (18441)
India
December 30, 2007 8:21am CST
Today morning when my friend called me she was so sad.She had a relationship in her previous working place.They were so much in love.It seemed it was an immortal relationship. Then they broke up recently due to the fact that recently the guy behaved so badly and cheated my friend. She was broken.Last friday she wished him in mail for new year. She also mentioned that 'you can answer if u want, do not if you don't'. But the guy did not replied. So she is now so sad. I have asked her to completely forget this cheater guy who took her advantage. I know its easy to say but hard to do.I am aslo feeling bad as the Guy could have anaswered to her.I have read here only that people get responses and wish from their ex however bitter the relationship be.
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10 responses
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
6 Jan 08
I believe it is better this way. If he had responded it would have given your friend false hope. This guy has done her a huge favour. There she was believing they were in love when it was obviously one sided only. Best to be unhappy now than to be married and have to go through a divorce. You are young so I imagine your friend is young too. There will be other loves, other happy times and other sad times. That is life.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
31 Dec 07
I feel it's for the best. The guy made it obvious that he didn't want to reply (just like she had mentioned in her e-mail). Or he probably has not even see it yet. But if he cheated on her and she broke off the relatinship, why would she want to be in touch with him. It should be a closed chapter in her life.
I'm sure most of the people who are in touch with their ex's separated on amicable grounds or they have moved on in life and being in contact is not going to affect them in any way.
Since your friend broke up with this guy recently, it wouldn't be a good idea to rekindle memories by being in touch. She will get over this guy if she tries to keep herself occupied with other stuff.
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
30 Dec 07
Tell her he is not worth messing with. He will proberly do the same thing over again. I feel really bad for her also and I understand because it has happend to me. He sounds like a loser she can do better then that.
@ileke4christ (62)
• Nigeria
30 Dec 07
From your comments, l understand that your friend still love his boy friend because of the mail she sent. she have to call him on phone and try to reconcile with him though he cheated her, even if she could not get him phone, she should try to pay him a visit till she has been able to see him face to face or spoke with him on phone.
if his guy refused to show any remorse then, she should understand the guy is not meant for her but if he show remorse and apologise, then she should forgive and accept him back and never remember any past offense he might committed against her.
@janisspaggiari59 (656)
• United States
31 Dec 07
She can learn from this.A lot of us go through the same thing.This failed relationship is just a way of learning the
good from the bad.He was bad,he cheated.He is a loser who deserves nothing but another loser.She needs to see this as a
blessing in disguise.I wish people wouldn't have to learn a lessen which pains us so much in our hearts so that we can learn how to distinguish a good partner from a bad partner.She'll get over him in time.All you can really do is be there for her.
@lollalollipop (43)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 07
jezzz.. yeah sometimes men are suck. Well, I have the same experience like your friends, and my advice is, really, your friend better trying not to think about that guy again!!!
coz, he cheating on her, so surely he feel happy broke up with your friends...
although it's easy to say, but yeah, right it's hard to do.
What you can do this time is be with her anytime you can, and say to her " time will do it's job, believe me!!!"
and try to make her avoid that guy, don't send him any more email, or even think about him. Guy give us more respect if we act like we don't need them lolz.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
30 Dec 07
what a cheat. guys like that shouldn't be forgiven easily and shouldn't be greeted on holidays. i mean, i greeted my last ex-bf with a Merry Christmas but he didn't cheat on me before and we broke up a long long time ago and now we're friends.
but for the ex-bf of your friend, he doesn't deserve early nice treatments after what he did to your friend. your friend should learn to forget him and she can do it by going out more often and interacting with friends like you. she should have fun and meet new guys so that she can forget him easily. the pain would subside. even if its still there at least she doesn't have to think about it every now and then.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
30 Dec 07
She should not be heart broken for he would not be worth the time if he cheated on her! It would have been nice if he did to sooth her bad feelings but he might think that she would take it as him caring for her again....which he might not feel anymore. She should just start looking for someone else...I know that is easier said then done but it would be quicker for her to get over him if she wasn't sitting alone thinking about him!
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
30 Dec 07
I guess it's good that he did not reply to her. In this way, your friend can forget him and move on more easily. I guess this is what we call 'He is being Cruel to be Kind'. He may seem cruel but by not being nice to her, he is allowing her to move on faster and forget him faster.
I have friends whose ex-boyfriends still treat them very nice after breakups. This gives my friends false hopes of a reconciliation. Actually, these guys are only nice because they want to be intimate with them. They want the intimacy but not the commitment. They are real jerks.
@glitzypurple (1477)
• Philippines
30 Dec 07
I know it's really hard to let go but maybe if she realized that she was taken advantage of then maybe that'll help her forget the guy and move on. I just wished she didn't mail the guy for the new year even if she really really wanted to because that might just make the guy more proud because he might think that the girl still runs after him and is so madly in love with him still.
I wish your friend happiness in the future. Good luck!!!
