Will you erase all the memories of a bad relation in 2008?

Hello,subha, AS for me no matter good or bad memories I will never forget them or try hard to erase them by doing that can make us remember more just as whta u said . No matter the memories is good or not ,these all the consists of life ,life is a bumpy rood we have to tolerate the bumps if we are to keep our sanity... It is said that we learnt by burned fingers(we may not learn much about burned fingers ,but we learn never to touch a hot stove again)... This is life .consists of all kinds of memories.. Have a good new year. Molly...

Actually we can forget about those sad memories but the truth it will never erase as it will be part of us. It is a learning experience that we always remember in our heart. Time will only thought us to move on and forgive but not really erase those. It really depends on how we treat those bad things. For me i had many bad and sad experiences and i learned from it very much and i was able to move on and i will try hard to take it positively so i can positively move on. happy New Year to you my friend.

i won't try hard to erase all the bad memories or even try hard to repair a broken relationship. those errors and mistakes will serve as lessons and therefore will guide me to avoid committing the same mistakes again. ^__^ i won't try to break ruined relationships because i am not the one who caused it. it is not in my nature to do the first move to resolve some misunderstandings that i am not at fault at. if it were the other way around, if i were the one who made the mistake and caused the misunderstanding, i would try to solve it. ^__^ happy new year subha!

There is no way I could erase the memories of bad relationships in my life...Every moment and detail of it I can remember but not dwell on it!Now that it has been almost eight years tending my heart to heal, I can look back and say, I made it after all.It is those bad experiences that make us a strong and a good person .For whatever bad it gave us in the past it is actually a blessing in disguise so we can learn from it and be molded into what we are now, "a better person".

No, I will not erase them. Every memory is there for a reason. I will remember the good memories to remind myself how blessed I am and not to take life for granted. I will also remember the bad memories and the bad people who had done bad things to me to remind myself to be strong and not to make those mistakes I had made ever again. =D

Though I don't have a broken relationship to try to forget, there are a lot of things I have to leave in the past. I don't underatand what you mean that trying to forget will make you remember. Just don't think too much about it, find new things that might interest you, and if you really want to forget, I don't see why you should remember.

I wish I could like chldren earsng the wrong ones from their note book. But in reality it will not get erased. But your suggestion is good and I wish I could do so. Obviously it is not possible and good and bad travel along with us.

Trying to erase memeories is hard! The easiest thing to do is to keep yourself occupied with other things. You can start by getting a new hobby and that would keep your mind occupied and you will soon forget the relationship. It works for me. I just don't think of things that I don't want to remember and focus on stuff that I want or need to do. I've gone through enough hardships in my life...but if I dwelled on it, I would think of myself as unlucky or be sad..which I do not want to be. In fact, if you ask me about certain incidents that happened even 2 years ago, I won't be able to remember much of it (especially the bad experiences)because I put it out of my mind and didn't think about it.

Well, i want to erase most of the bad memories. This year wasnt a good one for my intimate life and for my friendships. But no need to delete, i know, this is a bitter lesson what i really must learn...or it will repeat again and again.

Well if I were you I would rather take the bad memories as a lesson to be learned rather than forget all about it. There are many lessons that ou could learn from that. What worked and what didn't. Those pain will eventually fade away in time. Don't worry if it haunts you every now and then maybe it just wants to remind you something about it and wants you to learn from it and use it as a guide in your future lovelife, friends o whatsoever.

I really do not want to erase all the memories of bad relationship that I had in 2007. Instead I would try to make them good in this year. Else I would try to learn new things from the past experience that I had. I think remembering those incidents might give us some extra energy to improve and learn new things so that we do not repeat such mistakes. It would also make us to prove ourself infront of them.

Even in a bad relationship there are good memories. I would not want to forget about the nice times I had with a person. Also a bad relationship can teach us things. You look at what went wrong in the relationship and the next relationship you can correct those things. I call it a learning experience. It is a hard one but the thing about it is if you come out of it learning how to improve the next relationship I think it is worth remembering it.

yes.Your idea is correct.Instead of trying to forget it will be better to ignore.I have done this already.

Subha, i personally feel that you can never get over the past.. especially when you were hurt in feelings by someone. so no matter how hard you try, it wil always be there in one part of your mind. It is best to forgive instead of trying to forget. that way, even if you think of the person, or event, there is a sense of peace within you.

You have said it, so why try hard to forget. I do not seek to actively erase all memories from the past. What has past has past. Perhaps review the happenings may help one to learn a lesson or two from the past.

Well, I suppose I would just let it be, it's true that the more we want to forget something the more we'll remember it.

Yes, just as long as my partner can, I will..