Would this irritate you?
By leanneg
@leanneg (178)
Canada
January 1, 2008 7:58pm CST
Ok I've been friends with my best bud for 7 years know. I've noticed she has got really jelious of my other friends I hang out with. She keeps planning days over at my house without my permission and is just showing up.
If I do something without her she gets angry and babyish,
My sister was talking about seeing the movie "The Golden Compass" when she was around and she told us "I have to go with my mom and I don't wanna see it". So a few days later my sister and I went to the movies to go see it. My friend calls before I'm on my way out the door and I tell her where I'm going. She says "Ohh your going without me?" and I said " Yeah what's wrong with that". So she gets off the phone. After the movie is finished and I'm home I get a phone call from her, she calls crying.
She's called to say that I was a bad friend for not inviting her. Well the whole time I've known her I have to keep secrets of where I'm going without her or she would get really angry with me. Know I don't tell her nothing but she calls everyday to check up on me (which is really annoying me)
2 days ago she called and I wasn't home I went to the grocery store. I come back and the is over 5 calls from her. Then my front door flies open and guess who? I had my whole day planned out and she stayed till 1 in the morning.
Now wouldn't that irritate you?
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4 responses
@piatos03 (393)
• Philippines
3 Jan 08
She sounds more like a possessive lover to me. Kidding. From experience, it's best to talk it out with each other. Find out what's really wrong. It seems to me like she's just insecure because she's scared of losing the title of "best bud" Btw, doesn't she have other friends too?
@leanneg (178)
• Canada
3 Jan 08
Lol. She has other friends and they are really nice I've meet them but she won't go out and do things with them. I like to see her happy with other people too. One of her friends invited her to out and she refused to go. I encouraged her to go but she wouldn't.
@divinityreigns (3)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Two schools of thought here.
One, when something becomes more work than it's worth - it's time to remove that element from your life.
Two, a check should be done first to see if you have any part in her insecurities.
I'm not saying you do, I'm just suggesting you consider giving it some thought.
You've been friends for seven years. Are you suddenly hanging out with a different type of crowd that she's uncomfortable with and she fears losing you?
It sounds desperate on her part, but that doesn't mean that she's necessarily a bad person. It could really just mean that she values your relationship and cares and respects you so much that she's afraid of losing said friendship.
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
4 Jan 08
oh yes this would definitely irritate me. it sounds like she has no concept of boundaries at all. and she is very possessive. does she not have any other friends? this sounds quite like she is stalking you.
or perhaps this is a bad time in her life and she needs to be around people? but then again you mentioned that she is your best bud so perhaps she expects to be included in everything. but i guess you have to define some boundaries and tell her that sometimes you just want to have some ME time. everyone needs that. even married couples need some ME time away from each other.
@RazorClaw99 (2)
• United States
2 Jan 08
Yes it would irritate me big time. Just stop talking to this person. When she asks why you've been 'ignoring her' just explain how if she doesnt change then you wont talk to her permanently. Eventually she will change or she will lose a friend. Its one or the other.
(Experience: Same thing with my friend)
