Should I help , or should I distance my self away?

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Help everyone advise needed seriously here. I have a person I have known for about 20 years and thought I knew fairly well. Boy was I wrong! We started to develope a romance but I discovered that I didn't know him really very well at all, like I thought I did. I would see him over the years for an hour or so after work either at my girlfriends restaurant/Bar , as I would often stop for a coffee on my way home from work. What I did not realize was that He wasn't just stopping for a beer or two after work. He has a major drinking problem. This man is in love with me, and has been for many years. I terminated the relationship before it went to far when I realized this. So here is the problem he wants me to help him to stop drinking , I told him only he could help him self. But one other thing I realized after spending a fair amount of time with him as aposed to the hour or half hour that I had in the past that, 1 his is a vey slow learner and really isn't capable of setting up help for him self 2 one minute he says "I am not an alcoholic" then the next crying and saying "I need help, I need help , please help me". Just today I had to go over and make him go to a clinic as he had fallen down a flight of about 30 stairs (believe it or not , he was sober when he fell). He had three broken ribs and one was braced into his lungs. NOW HERE IS WHERE THE TORMOROL COME IN In 1989 I buried a brother due to the life style he lived as he was an alcholic . What do I do here do I help him since he really needs the help and support, knowing it will put me in emotional tormorol. I am a very strong person but this time lord you gave me a mountain. Any advise from all and any would be appreciated. Alcholics or non alcholics alike I would dearly love everyones advice. Happy New year to all