do you yell on people for no good reason at all?
By lorelai
@lorelai (1558)
Italy
January 2, 2008 7:54am CST
My Mum does that constantly. I think she is frustrated and that way she ventilates but I still hate it. As I am growing older I find myself doing the same things she does so sometimes I catch myself yelling on people when they do something wrong. I hate that and I really try to control myself. I am not blaming her for that but sometimes I really think that the saying monkey sees monkey does is true. What about you?
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@darthbakwaas (30)
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2 Jan 08
I generally try to avoid yelling at people if there is a good reason for me too because yelling doesnt solve anything , just creates more problems but i have to admit there have been situations where i lose my temper without any reason.
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
2 Jan 08
I don't yell at all. Yelling is not helping anyone. Why would I want to turn someones life into hell?
I don't like people who yell. Most likely they are yelling for help, but I am not psychoanalytic to deal with them...
I always ask yelling people not to cross my safety zone, because I can bite...lol
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Jan 08
No I don't yell at people. And whenever someone yells at me, it makes me do the complete opposite.Maybe that is why I don't yell at people.If someone I loved yelled at me for no reason,I would have to separate from them. I would get too angry to stay. I would end up doing something worse than yelling back. So the best thing for me and the person is for me not to be with them anymore.
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
3 Jan 08
My mom does that too which is precisely why I don't. I actually can't stand yelling at all of any kind. So while we can get things from our parents, it is very common, I usually try to be the opposite of my mom. I don't agree with her at all pretty much, especially the way she raised us. Just try to let it roll of your back- yelling actually creates a lot of stress anyway and that's not good either.
@flatblack57 (13)
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3 Jan 08
I tend to do it to my parents and friends and it feels right at the time but then I think wait that was kinda mean. Enjoy.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
3 Jan 08
Hello dear lorelai. I don't yell at people, but also hate to be yelled at for whatever reasons. Sometimes, when my students are noisy, I would just raise my voice, saying, 'Hey, kids, quiet, please, otherwise I would let you talk all the time to the end of the class'. They know that I am not satisfied with them when I say so. And usually they will stop and give me back a quiet atmosphere for teaching without chatting any more. hehehe. Thanks very much for your discussion, dear lorelai.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
6 Jan 10
Hello loreilai. Happy New Year to you. I thank you so much for the best response. Happy posting.
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
3 Jan 08
I raised my voice once... it scared everyone around me, because I'd never done it before! I have always dealt with people, even my kids, with an even tone of voice. I believe that yelling shows a lack of control, and the other person can't respect what you say if you can't deliver your message and maintain your cool at the same time. Rationality has always worked the best for me.
@wallstreet (341)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I actually do the opposite. I usally lower the tone and volume of my voice. My husband says that my lips get thin too..
@Wario_1 (965)
• Sweden
2 Jan 08
No, i usually always have a good reason for yelling at people. Yelling just for the sake of it feels lame. Just better to walk up close to the person you want to talk to and use a normal tone. Im used to yelling people, often my friends parets will yell from the ground floor to the second floor out of laziness, i find it annoying.
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