U moved on?
By sweetkim12
@sweetkim12 (64)
Philippines
January 3, 2008 6:22am CST
how will you know that you moved on from a relationship? the fact that you don't think about him/her anymore? you deleted his/her number from your phonebook? you wish him/her to be happy and really don't care whether she/he turns out to be a guy or a lesbian? how do you know?
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@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
3 Jan 08
That's a very difficult question for me. But just to help you or give you ideas about moving on and stuff.. well here it goes.. I'll start out by asking you a question:
"Even if you deleted his number from your phonebook, does that mean you already forgot his number or he himself?"
I don't think so. Moving on is definitely hard. But it's just a matter of time and acceptance so that you can finally say that you're over him. As for me, it's been almost 5 years yet I still can't forget my first love. He was my best friend but our friendship ended when he knew I loved him (7th grade at that time;feb.2003) It's really the memories that the both of you shared that makes you think of that person again.
-As for relationships, there's no definite time on how long or when you can move on from your previous relationship. But as long as you accepted that it's over between you and "him", then I think that's the cue that it's closing time. It is definitely possible that you can recall your memories together and maybe even getting hurt all over again.. that's simply shows that you have loved. Even though you may have lost, you can still love again.
Wish that person to be happy and don't care if he/she turns out to be homosexual?
- Yeah. You should wish him to be happy with his life. But personally, if a guy cheated on me which caused our break-up.. I won't wish him to be happy but rather "he'd burn in he ll with his chick" (kidding! :)_.
- About ex's turns out as homosexuals. I haven't experienced having one.. But if that happens to me,that's really something I can't fully accept in the beginning.. but I think as time goes by, I can already accept that that's what he wants in life (being gay), so be it.
_Hope this helps sweetkim12_
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@sweetkim12 (64)
• Philippines
5 Jan 08
thank you for your response meemingNEW!!! this is a mature content before i read this and i didn't know how to change it, and i made the other member the best response... but now i read it already, i realize a lot of things about my topic... thank you!!! this is the 1st best response...
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
6 Jan 08
:) It's okay . As long as I may be of help. I'd be responding more often in your next discussions sweetkim. Best of luck and Happy New Year.
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
20 Jan 08
Yes. I have moved on. I have deleted his number. I have also deleted him from my MSN and friendster. I am also not crying. I can still remember his birthday though. My memory is too good I guess =P
He wanted to remain as friends but I refused to. It's not that I am petty. If we had break off amicably with no third party involved, I would be fine with remaining as friends. He does not deserve my friendship at all.
I do not care what he turns out to be. If he is happy, good for him. If he is unhappy, it's none of my business.
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@pr4pyaar (306)
• India
20 Jan 08
well when you feel your guy/you is better elsewhere and not here, its time to move on. But hold on, please always give a second thought, cause you understand the weight of a decision only after you ve taken it, and such decisions are too too heavy to take.. Past cannot be reverted back, so before moving on, make sure you really don want to think of the other person, might be cause there is no more love, or cause the other person is better elsewhere than here..
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@darkangel079 (1498)
• United States
10 Jan 08
i moved on - the person who i thought love turned me down. she stop contacting me, texting me, ignored me. i felt like i was used. caught her one day online in yahoo and asked her if she still loves me - she said no - not once but twice and that was the last time i heard from her. we had a great relationship - i met her in the philippines, when coming back here in the states - we would always contact each other - but then she turned her back. it was cold what happened and it hurt - so yeah i removed her from my life - all her pictures, numbers, everything about her. it still haunts me that i think of her but time will heal that i can move on.
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@dania_elm (421)
• United States
3 Jan 08
after a relationship you will always think of that person when you hear your song or see someone with the same hair but how you know you are over it is that when you get into another relationship you are not always comparing them to ur ex then all will be well
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@sweetkim12 (64)
• Philippines
5 Jan 08
hi dania_elm! thank you for your response! i love your realization about not comparing your bf to your ex... coz i always compare them to my first love... and now that my first love is already married, i hope i can move on ...