Gay people and coming out

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I was looking online at some of the struggles youths have when they realise it is time to tell their friends and family they are gay ... also when adults have to tell people too ..... Story 1 Written By Truth_Is_Pain People think that when you come out, its much easier for you to live life. Well, those people are still in the closet, or they're straight. Coming out is probably the hardest thing you could ever do. You have to worry about who will stick by you, who will accept you and who will automatically disown you, and who will support you. I can tell you, my high school years are the hardest yet. I didn't make many friends throughout high school, for fear people would see the real me. The friends I did make, saw the real me, and didn't like it. I'll tell you right now, you can't always trust the quiet girls who walk around with their nose stuck in a book. Reason why? Well, I made friends with the quiet girl with her nose stuck in a book, and when I came out to her, she laughed in my face and told every single person she knew. She told the principal, as well. The principal sent me to counseling, for she thought I had a disease. Everyone thought I had some sort of disease. I had no friends at the end of 9th grade, and I always ran home crying. The principal called my dad and told him what happened, and of course he freaked out. He yelled at me, told me I wasn't gay, that I can't be gay - that it would dissapoint him and his whole family. I screamed at him that I was, and he threw me against a wall. I swore he was going to disown me for that. School did go a bit easier when I kept to myself, never talked in class, or to anybody. 10th grade, the new freshmen showed up. Everyone always bagged on them for being freshmeat, and I made friends with a few of them. They knew about me because word travelled from the high school to the junior high. I got used to the taunting, and then I ended up moving after 10th grade. I was glad I was moving, and I knew I would start a new school, and make 0 friends. Well, I was wrong. I made 2 real, true, honest friends. And they are both bi, so everything seems a whole lot easier. My mom says I should try to get a gay-straight alliance running at the school, but the principal is a homophobic. Well, that is my coming out story. Story 2 Written By Erica S. This is my story of how I thought this was the best way to come out: through a letter to my parents. Dear mom and dad, I have written you this letter to tell you my feelings. I just want you guys to know these things. They won't change. I understand if you won't like some of the things I will tell you. But it is just the way I am. You can also kick me out if you want to but I will always be the same. I am who I am. This is me. I am not normal. I am gay. I have to tell you one day so might as well be now. I feel so much happier now that I have told you. But I know as my mother and father you may disown me. I understand that you will want to. The way I think of it is you already hate the gay people you see walking down the street or on TV. So why wouldn't you hate me. It isn't what you think. It isn't peer-pressure or what everyone else is doing. I am just attracted to girls not guys. If you can't understand what I am trying to tell you then you never really loved me in the first place. You want me to be normal and you want me to be your perfect preppy little girl but that just isn't me. I have known about this for a long time at least half a year. Really since school started (2003-2004) I just played an act for everyone. I want to have your support. I want to talk with you more. Our relationships are breaking apart so fast. I want you to understand that I am not doing this for anyone but myself. I am tired of trying to keep this secret. It has been really hard to tell you because I already know what you are going to think. Or at least I think I do. This has been making it hard to sleep because I haven't been able to tell you. I'm scared you will ground me for life and not let me go places with my friends. I want to have some freedom. I don't care what you think because I want to stay the same. I am just trying to let you know how I feel. I think through my past two teenage years we have broke apart. I used to think I was able to tell you everything. I used to be able to say things to you and you would take it as it was. Mom I used to have the best relationship with you. Now I have matured and you have started to play Star Wars (online game). That is when our friendship broke again. I remember when we were able to sit and watch TV and just talk about life and were so happy. Or when we used to sit and talk about my day at school. We just don't do that anymore. I sort of miss our times together. Dad I just wish you tried to get to know me better. Just try and understand me before you judge me. You make fun of me and Chad (my brother) follows in your foot steps. You don't understand how much that hurts me. I just had to get those things out of my mind and let you know how I feel. I am tired of letting the emotions build up inside of me. If you think therapy will help. Then send me. If you think a support group will help. Then send me. All I am asking for is love not reasoning. I wrote you some poems to tell you how I feel. Don't take them the wrong way. Poems are my only way of telling you how I feel and who I am other than this letter. So when you read it don't try to be all poor baby dah dah dah. You Say You say you love me But do you really care You say you want me to be ok But how can I be ok if you don't want me You say no ones perfect Then why is it such a priority that I be perfect You say these feelings will change But right now I feel the same You say you want me to grow up But I think I have matured more than the both of you A Cut So Deep A cut so deep You made a scar Right through my tender soul You left the pain of hate You left no sign of love I take this scar Treasure it But will it never go away I want to feel whole again Love Your Daughter, Erica That was the first letter it took me a month to give it to them. It came with this letter. Dear mom and dad, The letter is how I feel. I typed it about a month ago. I have been very scared to give it to you. There are many reasons for me to be scared but I have to get this weight of my shoulders. I don't want to lose my relationship with my parents like most children my age do. I am blessed to live with both my mother and father. Most people's parents are divorced. I feel and take most things for granted I don't want to take our relationships or friendships for granted anymore. I want to earn things. I want to make it where you can trust me more. I know that the letter is a little blunt but I had to get my feelings out in the open I want you to know how my brain works and how my heart feels. You wonder why I am always in my room writing all the time. I just have to get my feelings on paper before I break into many emotions. I want to know if the way I am is good enough for you. I want to know if there is anymore I can achieve. I know I may not act like I am grateful for everything you have given me in life. I wish I could change all the things I have done wrong in life but I am not sure if that is possible. I wish it were. The way I look at is God brought me in this world. He made me the way I am. It isn't like I got to chose how I was going to be when I grew up. I look at it as he wanted me to be this way. He knew not everyone was going to be the same. I am unique in my own way. I understand if you don't understand me but I want you to try. So I hope this letter helps you. Love, Erica So yeah that is my story of coming out they didn't ask me to change they just took away all my freedom all I got to see the outside world is TV, radio, telephone, and this computer. Oh well life will never be the same. All because I realized I was gay. ISNT IT TIME FOR PEOPLE TO START THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX Isnt it time that people start to remember that we are all human and in the eyes of god (for those that believe) all family no matter what our differences?I am saddened by these stories, although not all bad, still time to change ways of thinking and help those who need it rather than make them feel bad and abnormal .....