Do you think this is rude?

Well parents are going to have their differences. How are kids going to learn how to have a healthy relationship, if they never see their parents arguing. I know this sounds contrarian, but someone has to be.

I think it is setting a bad example by arguing in front of your kids. It kind of makes them feel insecure and also lose a little trust in their parents.

To be the basic issue here is not the rudeness, it’s the disharmony that they have and which they are passing on to their children. Parents are human beings too and as adults they are bound to differ over issues. But usually they agree on most issues coz for a family to function properly, both the parents have to perform like the wheels of a bicycle. I think you children can approach them and convey to them your feelings and sense of being hurt. They should also be made to understand that they are not exactly setting a good example for their children and their future marriage.

I personally think arguing is rude, no matter who is there! Children or adults, family, or the public, it's just right down immature! There are more intelligent ways to settle a disagreement, rather than put on a display!!

well, I wouldn't say it was Rude. But it is definitely not helpful to the psyche of the child, especially young children between 3-10 years old. It shows that their parents are angry with each other and cannot resolve their differences like adults. of course this refers to arguing in the sense of shouting matches that are quite out of control. If they are just disagreements that are sorted out in a level tone of voice, then i think it is inevitable and all right. lots of parents vow that they will never fight in front of the kids, but sometimes when situations get out of hand, then they forget all these promises that they had made.

its depends on the culture,in the philippine long yrs.ago it seems that its very rude,but now a days its becomes normal,here in korea its nothing.coz afterthat they will laugh at it,

Glitz, Your parents are as normal as you; and they may easily frick-out like you do with your friends. It's normal for people to have argument, and in fact it's health for a relationship. The only difference between you and your parents is "time", i mean "age". Just understand them...

Not only is it rude, but it teaches the children that it is acceptable. If one yells at the other especially, it is bad. If you are the oldest one, if they start, just take the smaller ones where they can't hear. Or, as far away as you can get. Maybe they will start to pay attention, & you can tell them why it is bad for the children, & why you are moving them away from it. Don't tell the younger ones that the parents are bad, just that you are giving them privacy.

Not only is it rude, but it teaches the children that it is acceptable. If one yells at the other especially, it is bad. If you are the oldest one, if they start, just take the smaller ones where they can't hear. Or, as far away as you can get. Maybe they will start to pay attention, & you can tell them why it is bad for the children, & why you are moving them away from it. Don't tell the younger ones that the parents are bad, just that you are giving them privacy.

I"m not sure if it's rude or not, I guess it depends on how the people involved see it, but I can say that it's not a very good parenting tool. That said sometimes what can be seen by someone else as a nasty argument might not be perceived by the ones doing it as such. Some people just look like they're arguing when they're talking to others because of their own personalities.

I, personally, think it is okay to argue in front of your children, as long as it doesn't get out of hand. Children need to learn how to argue constructively and what better way then to learn from example. But like i said it has to be constructive argueing. Where things are talked out and solved. If it is something more serious than no, they shouldn't argue in front of their children. Then they should take it into their bedroom and away from the kids.

i dont think arguing is that bad but fighting is horrible and scares the little kids!

I think that it isn't rude, and maybe in some cases could be good for the kids to know that everybody fight and that it is normal to have discussions, but that even they aren't always on agreements they can love each other, and from my personal point of view it is very important for kids to understand this.

I don't think arguing in front of your kids is alright. I'm really only a kid myself, and I've seen a lot of arguing in my life, and I think it brings a negative outcome to the kids. It affects them, when they see their parents arguing, they sorta think it's an OK thing to do, and they'll argue with their parents more than usual, over the smallest of things. I don't know if that made any sence at all, if it didn't, sorry.

I think, if its persistent, bitter and serious its not done. More than rude it's going to leave the children with far fetching result. They can get paranoid and develop psychological problems which is sad. Moreover, the child will pick up the nuances from parents and develop a irritable habit of picking and arguing.

For small things I think spouses should learn to be tolerant and give way to each other. They should realize that arguing affects the children. I was emotionally distressed whenever my parents had a big fight, because I love them both.

I can't say it's rude, but it is not suitable at all. Kids will be afraid of seeing their parents argue and it'll frighten them.

Hello dear glitzypurple. I think that parents are not supposed to have an argue before their kids as they need to set a very good example to them. You know, we say parents are the initial teachers of their kids ever since they were born. Thanks for your realistic discussion as I sometimes see parents of this kind in the hope that they will pay more attention to their remarks and actions before their kids. Thanks again.

well sure it will not leave good impact on kids parents should try to solve these problem in their bed room. as when u r togather arguments and differnce of opinion arises but it must be solved plitely and gently home is meant to be heaven on earth, so love and peace must be there and it help in character building and upbringing of kids too much fight all over the house make environment tense and effect kids personality its my opinion take care

Yes...It is very rude,especially when the kids are way too young to understand what's going on between their parents. It may have a psychological effect on them.