There are Mistresses

I don't know why some people cheat,it's stupid. If you know someone who is married and interested in you leave them be and if you are also interested in them back then run as fast as you can the other way. Too many people get hurt. My ex husband cheated on my son and I and left when my son was only 3 1/2 months old. He is still with the same woman and they now have a kid together. Yes it hurt and it broke our family up, but to tell you the truth I a happier now divorced. And I've even heard that he's cheated on her too. Not that I want to know. As they say once they cheat they will always cheat.

this is one of those things that really never resolves it just is. in some cultures it is just understood that there is another woman and that is that. I feel sorry for women who have to endure this situation. I think that if someone is going to be in a situation like this they should at least cover their tracks so that the innocent dont get hurt. and the best way to do that is to not cheat to begin with.

There are many reasons why men fall for other women while women fall for married men. One of the reasons is the other woman may have been an ex-gf of the man and he realized he still loves her. Another is, his wife may have changed and is a different person now than the early part of their marriage. Many women change and are not very particular with tehir looks anymore when they are married. A lot of men want their wives to still be the same person as when he was still courting her but unfortunately, she changed. This maybe a reason why he will fool around. A lot of women fall for married men for security reasons. Most married men are established financially and it is one way of feeling secured for them (women)

In my case, I believe it is because I changed and wanted different things out of life. When I married, I believe that I was in a sleep state and was more concerned that I should have a woman to look after me. I found a girl who (probably) had similar concerns for me as my mother. 39 years on, I realise that I really 'married my mother'. I find that incredibly sad!

Interesting question. Quite simply, as far as I am concerned, being married to someone doesn't stop you from being attracted to another, either platonically or sexually/romantically. Obviously you shouldn't be unfaithful, but being someone's husband or wife doesn't stop you from feeling attracted to other people, nor do people stop finding you attractive because of the marriage. You can't help that you might be attracted to a married man or woman, even when you know they're taken. As far as continuing with a relationship after knowing this, that's really not right, but you can't help the initial attraction. I don't know if I'm making sense =P

I can never understand why a woman would want to come in and break up a family. Of course the man always blames the wife and says that she didn't give him enough attention or she changed. Maybe if he sat down and talked with her or they went to marriage counseling the marriage could be saved. As for the other woman in my opinion if you know someone is married you should stay away. Now if you had no idea then that is a different story. Either way its a two way street and all parties need to think clearly.

well its really a very weird thing but noone can stop anyone fromm expressing their feelings.actually i guess these things happen because people in some way or the other are not happy witheir marital life and just wanna go out of it.they seek for love and in that haste they really dont care whether they are breaking others home.till the time they realise its gets really late .by that time things just get out of control for everybody.nobody has control on their feelings.thats why its said that love is blind.

I don't think that there is any easy answer to that question. Even though we would like to believe that pureness and integrity are the building blocks of any relationship, sadly this is not always the case. Also, when we are talking about marital infidelity, and other related matters, sometimes we actually have to change our definitions of love. Even though we would like to think that the only thing that can inspire such actions is love, sometimes it is nothing more than simple lust. Simply put, people get bored in relationships. It sounds cruel, and it sounds mean, but sometimes a person wants something outside of the relationship they have, and although possible, it is rare that couples in a healthy relationship have the desire to go outside or cheat on each other. Often times people seek something in others that they cannot find in themselves. So, consider that when those characteristics that made us fall in love are no longer there, it seems only natural that one would try to find it somewhere else. This is not to say in any way that it is right for such things to happen. In marriage especially, one promises there life to another, and just because we may feel lust or attraction for another individual does not give us the right to break the oaths that we swear. I hope this can answer your question slightly, even though many probably have vastly different opinions on the matter.

no one can explain why this really happens... but some ppl just do.. its not a bad thing and you cant stop your feelings... but the cheating... well thats just not cool so if your going to be going out to get a mistress i suggest break up with the other